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2020.10.01 00:25 maiflys Career start with Amazon?

So I recently got an EHS role with Amazon. My understanding is that they often take people without safety backgrounds, and I guess I'm one of those people. I have an unrelated B.S. and M.S. degree, so I'm hesitant the industry will not take kindly to me. If I was to move on from Amazon, what milestones should I aim for beforehand? ASP?
I'm still interested in the field of course. Would looking into OSHA 30 and taking some other certs prior to my start date be helpful? I work in a kitchen right now and the safety inspector comes by now and then, but that's my main exposure.
Ultimately I hope it makes no difference, but are there any woman in the field that have advice? I have female friends who work in construction, warehouses, and trades and while a few have personal fulfillment, they have all mentioned not being taken seriously as an issue. I know one leaving her field because of harassment and assault. Being a small woman who is generally considered quiet and fairly weak, would I be a poor fit for the culture of many places with safety professionals?
I appreciate any insight!
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2020.10.01 00:25 ismannerisms Why so serious?

Whatever happened to the idea of two people being attracted to each other, which was established by person A saying "I think you look good", and then person B saying "Well, I think you look good", and then they both agreed to meet someplace, and took things from there? It appears that everybody likes to make things more complicated than they need to be. Then it ends up leading to a vicious circle of people wanting extremely particular messages and greetings, unrealistic expectations, etc. I mean the list goes on and on, and it never stops. Why do people expect things online to be different from the real world? Doesn't everyone just want to love, and be loved? It's such a simple concept, but things have gotten so convoluted. Back in the day, if a man desired a certain woman, he would just hit her over the head with a club, and then drag her back to his cave. When she woke up, they became a couple. What happen to all the fun that used to be involved in dating, talking on the phone all night, great conversations, doing fun activities together, discovering new music together, watching scary movies in the dark, making mix tapes for each other, requesting songs on the radio, late night trips to dennys or ihop, slipping your gum into their mouth during a kiss, going to the carnival, going skinny dipping, having that one friend go missing because they went into the ocean in the dark, having your friends disappear one by one at summer camp cause of some guy in a hockey mask, taking pills to stay awake because of a guy named Freddy, etc?
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2020.10.01 00:23 SunshineMassacre All I want for Christmas is just us

So my bf(24m) and I(22f) have been together for almost three years. We started dating before Christmas, so we've spent three Christmases together already. As an important note, my bf is a hardcore Mamma's boy and kinda drops everything to help his mom. Christmas isn't as much of a thing in my family, so we usually spend it with his family. His mother is insane about Christmas. She goes over-the-top on decorations, literally every inch of her house is decorated and decorating the house takes three days and demands (not asks) all of us to be involved and even take time off work to decorate her house. The pressure his mom puts on Christmas stressed out everyone and makes things incredibly tense. Also, there's an expectation that tons of gifts must be bought by each person, for each person. And as a broke person, I can't afford to blow hundreds of dollars on gifts. This drives both me and my boyfriend crazy as neither of us are crazy about the holiday and also causes a lot of stress and tension that we don't need.
So this year, I came up with the idea of me and my boyfriend just...doing our own Christmas. No family involved, just us. A nice calm winter holiday for just the two of us. I've suggested this to him a few times, doing my best to hype it up and make it sound like a great idea. Sometimes he seems really into it and other times he acts like it's really not that good of an idea. I don't know if I can handle another crazy Christmas with the crazy year we've all had. So my question is this, I think I can convince him to come around to my way of thinking...but how do I help him to not just cave and go running back to his mother?
Tl;dr: My bf's mom is obsessed with Christmas and I just want a year where he and I can actually enjoy the holiday together.
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2020.10.01 00:22 secondaryaccount01 Wierd question

So I had a discussion with one of my freinds about if something is considered as rape or not. When I was 15 I was dating a girl that said she was 16 years old. A few month after the relationship ended I found out she was 19 years old. Is this seen as rape as she is over the age of 18 and lied about her age my freind says it's not and says "you gave consent" but I gave consent thinking she was 16 is this classified as rape
We did have a sexual relationship and I did give concent
This happend 2 years ago I personally dont really care but just want to know if it is seen as it or not
I'm not traumatised by this event in anyway just so that's clear
If the english doesn't make sense it's not my native language
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2020.10.01 00:18 apdoublep23 My girlfriend hooked up with a guy a day before we met eachother. is this okay?

So my girlfriend and I (both 20) were scrolling thru her instagram dms and i came across a dm with a friend and we looked at it and she forgot what was being said in it because it stated how her and this guy had sex last night.
This was in May, by this time my gf and I had been talking serious for almost 2 months but we had not yet seen each other due to covid. I knew this girl was special and cut everyone off for her and we still have a great relationship and i don’t see it ending anytime soon but this made me scared seeing this and wondering what she could do to me. I was looking thru our snap memories and the first day we hung out was a day after this happened with this guy. We knew we were going to hangout the entire week and had plans made. It’s angering to me because was it that necessary??
I confronted her about it and she was very sorry when i found out because she tried lying about it, she didn’t think i saw the date and tried saying it was about me, but we waited almost a month before we had sex from that date.
We’ve talked about it a couple more times after that and she now thinks there was nothing wrong with it. she claims she was scared to become serious with me because she knew she was going to like me a lot.. and she keeps saying it doesn’t matter because we had not met yet.
i get that point but it’s just the fact, literally a day before we met each other she was hooking up with another guy and i was there thinking i was the only guy she was talking too. Am i overreacting? Was what she did totally fine? Or was it shitty of her? Just feel betrayed because for those two months before this we facetimed every night talking all night since we could see each other in person but she just had to hook up with a guy right before me.
Forgot to add She told me she had hung out with this guy 3 times before meeting me.
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2020.10.01 00:16 quapa1994 Me (26M) and ex (22F) were about to get married

Back in November 2019 I met a great girl off of Tinder. We hit it off so well that we didn't go a day apart without seeing each other except for two times I went out of town. At the time she was separated from her husband, living with her parents and was in the process of filing for divorce which finalized in February 2020. After a month we had a discussion about what we wanted out of dating and our progressing relationship. She mentioned that she dates with a purpose and I did too. With things going so well we had loosely joked about getting married which prompted talks about how long should we date before getting engaged. We agreed that a year is good before getting engaged. With things going so well she ended up moving in with me in April 2020 right at quarantine.
I'd never really been in love before but this girl made me feel a certain way. She was kind, affectionate, thoughtful, and caring. She'd write we sweet notes and text me through out the day. She ended up saying "I love you" first after about a week. Then weeks after saying I love you things became heavy as she said things like, I love you, I'm going to marry you, you're the one for me, I never knew I could feel like this about someone else, I've never felt this type of love before, you're going to be the father of my children, I had a dream about being in the hospital and you were there with me while I was giving birth to our child. This was some heavy stuff for me, but I love this girl and she loved me. It was nice to feel wanted so badly and be one the same page regard the relationships end goal of marriage.
Our dating life was fun. We'd go out to eat, get drinks, movies, walk around the mall, shop, go thrifting, binge netflix and when the weather was nice we'd go out to eat on a partio, walk downtown, go to my parents lake house, my parents pool, or take my dog for a walk. Everything was going great until I kept suggesting we do things that involved my family, along with the issues that arise with living with each other. Its worth mentioning that she was not close to her family and wished her family was more like mine.
Our fist little incident was when we had rsvp'd to go to my grandparents house for a party for my step-brother. The evening prior she had mentioned that she'd like to go to a new thrift store she saw before we head to my grandparents, which I agreed. Well the morning of, we get a late start and make it to the thrift store which turned out to not be so good and could only stay about 20min before we'd have to leave to make it to my grandparents on time. This was displeasing to her because she wanted more time to thrift and go to other places. We end up leaving and on the way she says that she's not going and would like to be dropped off at home. I pull up to our place and we both go in. Since she wasn't coming I decided to take my motorcycle and got all my gear on and was heading out the door when she said something along the lines about how I'm just going to leave while she's upset and we're having an issue. I came back inside and we talked for 2hr about how family is important to me and how this sort of party had some religious significance and by showing up it shows support. I ended up not making it to the party. After the long talk about how family is important to me things seemed to get a little better.
Slowly over the course of the summer the issue about family would resurface. She'd text me asking what I wanted to do today and often times I'd say that its a 90degrees and sunny so lets go to my parents pool to swim. If the response was what she was expecting then I'd get an "oh" text followed up with a "we went swimming yesterday. Can we just stay home". I was fine with staying home but it started to become a pattern and I didn't really care much for staying at home inside while it was nice weather outside. This prompted the issue with family again because she felt that I spent too much time with family and not enough with her. I tried talking with her about how much time we already spend with each other let alone we live with each other. She seemed to see my perspective and came up with the idea that if I wanted to go spend time with my family that was fine because then she could have some alone time and do her nails and watch her girly shows that she knows I'm not too keen on watching.
Another incident arose when it was my grandfathers 76th birthday. Everyone was invited up to their house for the party. However, she had already made plans to go to her parents place and wasn't sure what time she'd be home. My grandfathers party was at 600p. It's about 400p and I'm just finishing up work and she walks in the door with a pizza. I was like oh did you not go to your parents house. She said that she did but finished up there and came home. I said okay cool would you like to come with me to my grandpa's birthday. She said no that she going to have a quiet night in and that I can go without her. This kind of bothered me because I figured that she would under stand that birthdays are kind of significant. She also says that if people ask where she is to tell them that she's at her parents house, which was kind of a half truth. So I arrive at the party and people start asking me where she is and I lied for her. I don't like lying and it doesn't make me feel good. It didn't make much sense to me why someone who arrived home 2hrs early couldn't accommodate attending a birthday party, but rather wanted a quiet night alone.
Now to touch on the issues that arouse while living with each other. I have a 1bd/1ba apartment. I have pretty much everything furnished from the kitchen to the living room to the bedroom. Not to mention my walk-in closet was full of my clothes. Well I under estimated how much stuff she would have. I forgot to take into consideration that she was once married and she too had furnishings. We ended up have duplicate kitchen supplies, one to many nightstands, another bedframe, one to many dressers, it became a very very small 1bd/1ba apartment after she moved in. But we organized and made it work.
Fast forward to July 2020. We've now been in quarantine for I don't know how long, businesses are still closed, things to do are limited, I've been working from home fulltime, and we're crammed into a small apartment. She starts talking about a timeline for when I'd have to propose in order for her to have a summefall wedding and the time it'll take to send out invitations. The timeline began in DecembeJanuary. I started to feel like I was suffocating and I didn't understand why, I love this girl and want to marry her. I tried being honest with her in the fact that I want to marry her and have kids, but monogamy is a big commitment and it scares me because so many people I know including my own father have been divorced. She didn't like what I said and was sad but we considered maybe 2yr of dating would be good. Going along with the feelings I was having, she had also asked if we could move into a bigger apartment, get another tv, and get a joint bank account to start saving for a house.
The weekend prior to the regretted event, both Saturday and Sunday there was a situation that I helped tend to that lasted about 6hrs each day. During each day I tending to the situation I felt confused because I didn't have the feeling of suffocating. Well Monday evening after work we were both sitting on the couch because we had things to talk about and through sobbing tears I made an impulse decision that I didn't want a relationship anymore. This set off a chain reaction of events that I wish never would have happened. The reason I gave for not wanting a relationship was that I felt like I was in a box and smothered. Obviously she didn't like what I had to say and was really worked up about the whole thing. She started to say things like she has no where to go and that she never should have moved in with me and that I'd have to explain to her parents why I broke up with her. I felt horrible about it and still do. She also asked if we could still be friends because she doesn't not want my in her life, which I said that I would like that.
Everyday for over a week after I pulled the plug on the relationship I cried. Not just cried I sobbed, wept, ugly cried. I got an appointment with a therapist I would occasionally see and I told him everything about the relationship, what I had done and that I'm sleeping on my pull out couch. His professional counselling was that I am human and I'm allowed to be human in regards to making decisions that I regret and want to fix or work on. He said that nothing that he heard didn't seem like it wasn't salvageable considering we were both heavily committed to getting married. He suggested that if I wanted her back to talk to her and work on things. I also asked him if he would be open to having an appointment with both her and I because she had mentioned that she wished and wanted to do couples counseling before getting married.
Same day after my appointment, she comes home from work and we sit down on the couch to talk. She asked how my appointment went and I told her everything that was talked about including that I want to try and salvage the relationship. She said that I hurt her and that I'd need to prove to her that I want her. She said that she'd work on the relationship as well. She also said that she'd be open to attending an appointment.
So day one of trying to salvage the relationship after she had told all her coworkers and family that we'd broken up. When she gets home I try to be more attentive to her needs. I aske if she'd like to get back scratches while watching Netflix which she said yes to. After that I ask if she'd like to cuddle which again she says yes to. Everything seems to be going well. Next day I do the same thing plus ask if I can take her out to dinner, which she says yes to. I do this for the next few days along with doing more chores around the apartment and trying to actively listen to her and pick up on additional things I can do to show her that I still want her and want the relationship.
After work one day she went to her parents house to talk about what to do I imagine because when she came home she said that she's still going to continue to look for a place to move out to and still work on trying to fix the relationship. She said that if she finds that the relationship has improved then she'd stay. I said that sounded like a good plan and even if she were to move out it'd give us some space and time to think about everything.
Well one day after work everything changed. She no longer wanted the attention that I had been previously been giving her. She also seemed to always have plans with coworkers or friends. This was a bit odd to me because while in the relationship she'd only gone out with coworkers once or twice and neither of us have friends outside of family and work. I tried to not think about it because I thought we were working on our relationship and we were still being intimate with each other. However, the effort that I was putting in didn't seem to be reciprocated. Something that kind of irritated me was that I had flowers delivered to her at work and when they arrived she said all her coworkers were asking who they were from and she replied with she didn't know. I kept it to myself at the time, but I'm the only one who has ever sent her flowers at work before and for her to say I don't know didn't sit well with me.
At this point I wasn't sure what was going on and she had mentioned that I would have to tell her parents why I broke up with her. While talking to my father he said that I should call her dad. So I tried calling her dad at work because I had no other way of contacting him and he didn't answer. Shortly after I get a text from her asking if I had tried calling her dad at work and that I had crossed the line because i had no right in calling her dad and that's weird of me to do. She also said that her dad could have gotten in trouble at work for answering my call. I said I was sorry and that I didn't know that it would be an issue. I also said that I don't think that its weird because my previous ex called and spoke to my father after our break up. She calmed down a bit but I could tell that she was not please with me.
So the day came where she found a place for rent and wanted to tour it. She asked me if I'd go with her for safety reasons. I wait in the car and when she comes out she says that she's going to live there. On the ride home I start asking her questions about the relationship and how does she see it after she moves out. She said that she thinks that her moving out will be nice because it will give us our space. I said that I agree with her and that I was sad that she was moving but hopeful that we'd fix things because we were trying. I also asking logistically how she wanted to attend our counselling appointment because there have been opportunities where she could have attended but she always pushed it off another week. She said to let her know when the next one would be and she'd try to make it work.
I took a week off of work and went to FL with my father and brother for a mental health getaway. While I was gone she was supposed to be moving her things out. There were some texts send and some phone calls had where I expressed what I want and what she thought I didn't want or wasn't ready for. I told her that everything that she wanted I wanted but that I often need a push to get there but that I am ready. Somethings were said where she said that she didn't think that the relationship would work and that she wouldn't change her mind about that because I hurt her and the trust would have to get rebuilt. I said that I'm willing to do whatever it takes.
After a week in FL I didn't feeling mentally healed because the relationship still seemed to be in a grey area. When I got home I didn't feel comfortable sleep in my apartment so I stayed at my fathers house for a couple days. Since the break up I hadn't been sleeping well, I'd have a hard time falling asleep, I'd wake up in a panic, I was always nauseous and wasn't eating anything. To this day I still feel the same.
A couple days after my trip she calls and asks how I'm doing. I tell her the truth that I'm not doing well. She comes over and we talk about things and what's going to happen. It was a good talk, she leaves and I send her a text just saying that it was nice to see her, she replies with it was nice to see me too. That evening she calls to talk again and asks if I wanted to come over and hang out. I said I'd like that and I brought my iPad to watch Netflix and picked up pizza. We finish the pizza and I leave. When I get home I send her another text saying that I enjoyed tonight, she replied with she did too and that she misses me and Winston(my dog).
Later in the week after my FL trip I help her move the rest of her furniture out to her new place. While doing so I'm visibly upset and sad and we get to talking. Turns out she's already been on a date with some new guy. This really hurt me because I was under the impression that we were working on trying to improve our relationship, not move on. She could tell that I was hurt and said something along the line of "what did you not expect me to find and date someone else?". I said that I thought we were still trying to be with each other.
For the next week I don't call or text her first she always initiates contact. Every time she calls or whatever, the relationship gets brought up after she had told me the last time if I brought it up every time we spoke then it wasn't going to work. I found this odd because now she's the one calling me and talking about the relationship. One of the phone calls she mentions that she's now gone on a couple dates with the new guy, has met his family, and is planning a road trip with him for the weekend. I don't really want to listen to all of it but just say cool.
Fast forward to this past Friday. I get a text asking what I have this evening. I say that I didn't have anything planned yet for Friday but that I had a date lined up for saturday evening that I wasn't particularly looking forward to. She then goes on to ask if I wanted to go on a date. I ask with who and she says with her. I ask are you serious. She says, well only if you want to. I said that I'll pick her up at 700p and we'll go out to eat. She says that her and the new guy were no longer a thing, she cancelled her weekend road trip with him, and that she physically felt ill thinking of me with someone else. I tell her welcome to the club. She also says that she doesn't think that we should be seeing other people if we are going to try and work on our relationship. She suggests that I cancel my Saturday date and her and I can go out.
I'm 10min out from picking her up and she calls and says that she's headed to her parents house because her father is having heart problems and asks to reschedule for Monday. I say cool. I'm pissed now because I got my hopes up too high then started thinking about logistics. What kind of person would thoughtfully reschedule a dinner date after a weekend where they supposedly cancelled all their plans? Who reschedules a Friday dinner date for a Monday? This had my mind running nonstop now.
Come Saturday. Its about an hour before my date and I've heard nothing. So I try calling her to see if her and I were going to hang out and what not. She sends me to voicemail and texts me what's up. I feel slighted and don't reply and continue to my date, who proceeds to not show up.
Now Sunday. She calls me and asks what I'm up to. I say that I'm driving to take Winston for a walk. She then asks how my date was last night. I tell her that I didn't want to talk about it, but she kept asking so I told her how the date no showed. She said she was sorry. I then ask if she ended up going on the roundtrip with the new guy because I felt like things weren't as they seem. She proceeds to say no "we" didn't end up going because the town we were going to doesn't have a lot opened up. I then go off a bit and ask what's going on? Like we had a date lined up for Friday that's now moved to Monday, but you said you were done with the new guy but you sound like you're back together now. She says that she's sorry if she confused me and to be honest that they had a fight Friday. So I interject and say oh so I'm just the left overs. I then tell her that she knows where I stand and what I'm willing to do for the relationship and that I don't want to play games. I also didn't understand how two people could get so close and talk about marriage, kids, house, career, etc. and one of them just happens to find "the one" 2wks later. She said that she's sorry and there's nothing she can do about it now. She also said that she would have stayed and worked harder had I proposed. I said to me logically it would make more send to sit down with a marriage counselor like she had suggested and what I was trying to do before proposing. I asked does that not make more sense, like iron out all the wrinkles and get on the same page before getting engaged? She agreed but kept saying she was sorry. She then goes on to tell me things that I've already heard before.
She begins to tell me that she knew she loved this guy after the second date, she's going to marry him, he's the one for her, she never knew she could feel like this about someone else, she's never felt this type of love before, he's going to be the father of her children, she had a dream about being in the hospital and he was there with her while she was giving birth. I tell her that I've heard all of this before and that that used to be me. I say that it seems that rather that work on the relationship you have/had you found some new shiny dude and are infatuated with him because he's new. She begins to say that her and I have history and that we'll always have history but that she's focused on her future and what she wants and supposedly this new guy is what she wants because they both want to get married and have kids. I tell her that I've told you I too want those things. She just keeps saying sorry and that she loves and cares for me but that she's made her choice. She also says that the new guy knows about me and they he knows that she still talks to me. I tell her that I'm not going to be reaching out to her for the foreseeable future or an extended period of time because I need to get myself right. I let her know that I too love her and hope that things work out. Phone call ends.
I drive over to my fathers place to fill him in on everything and I get a text from her saying that nothing will change the fact that I taught her how to love again and that she'll always love me. She says this because she was broken while she was separated from her husband and didn't think she would find someone else or feel the way she felt with me. She had some trauma and communication problems that I helped her with to make her a better person. Its an awful gut wrenching feeling but it feels like I put this girl back together and some other dude is going to benefit from it all.
I still want this girl. I want to be with this girl. When together we're great. We have similar tastes, interests, humor, ideas, politics, etc. Our goals are aligned now. I have zero idea or recourse on what to do now that she's found some other dude that supposedly makes her happy. Part of me wants her new relationship to work out, but a larger part of me wants it to crash and burn. They're 2wks in and already had a fight. Her and I didn't have a fight until the weather became warmer. I still have a hard time sleeping. I wake up anxious and in a panic knowing that she's gone. I still don't eat or drink much. I see my therapist about once a week still. Its been weeks since I pulled the plug. I've started to see a personal trainer at the gym now. Afterwards I don't know why, but I felt some strong anxiety and couldn't stop thinking about her.
I've had break ups before but this one has me all over the place. It's hard to focus and function. I feel like Chuck in the movie "Good Luck Chuck".
Why do break ups do this to me? What more can I do to try and move passed it? Why does this one hurt so much more?
tl;dr: Great relationship. Moved in with each other. Were about to get engaged. Made an impulse decision to end it. Tried to get her back. She found someone new.
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2020.10.01 00:15 throwRA969606 (24F) Ever since being in an emotionally abusive relationship I have a hard time feeling the same feeling of love

About 3-4 years ago I was getting out of a 2 year on and off emotionally abusive relationship. I felt like I loved this person more than anything in the world. I had no doubts about how much I loved him from the beginning. We said I love you after one week of dating each other (we had been friends for a few months before hand). Never in my life did I meet someone I had so much in common with and just clicked with. Unfortunately, around 3 months into our relationship he started showing his true colors. Not responding to text messages, not wanting to talk, not wanting me around for anything. He would insult me, gaslight me, cheat on me, etc. Anyway, fast forward to now, I have been in therapy for 3 years, I'm taking antidepressants and I feel ok emotionally. I feel like I am over the person and I haven't talked to him in 3 years, but every time I start dating someone and its going well I start getting doubts, fears and worries because the intensity of my feelings aren't the same as they were for the guy I was in a bad relationship with. I feel like I'm supposed to be madly in love immediately and I always compare my feelings. I don't know how to get over this. I've talked to my therapist about it and I do thought journals sometimes, but I'm just really tired of this getting in the way. I feel like the intensity of my emotions has just substantially decreased and its frustrating. Don't know if this is just how dating is a you get older and its less about having a crazy infatuation with someone. Which, I still feel the infatuation, but not too the same degree. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it.
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2020.10.01 00:11 Brisk_Avocado Garfield

Garfield is an American comic strip created by Jim Davis. Originally published locally as Jon in 1976, then in nationwide syndication from 1978 as Garfield, it chronicles the life of the title character, Garfield the cat; Jon Arbuckle, his human owner; and Odie, the dog. As of 2013, it was syndicated in roughly 2,580 newspapers and journals, and held the Guinness World Record for being the world's most widely syndicated comic strip.
Though this is rarely mentioned in print, Garfield is set in Jim Davis' hometown of Muncie, Indiana, according to the television special Happy Birthday, Garfield. Common themes in the strip include Garfield's laziness, obsessive eating, love of coffee and lasagne, disdain of Mondays, and diets. Garfield is also shown to manipulate people to get whatever he wants. The strip's focus is mostly on the interactions among Garfield, Jon, and Odie, but other recurring minor characters appearing as well. Originally created with the intentions to "come up with a good, marketable character",[2] Garfield has spawned merchandise earning $750 million to $1 billion annually. In addition to the various merchandise and commercial tie-ins, the strip has spawned several animated television specials, two animated television series, two theatrical feature-length live-action/CGI animated films, and three fully CGI animated direct-to-video films.
Part of the strip's broad pop cultural appeal is due to its lack of social or political commentary; though this was Davis's original intention, he also admitted that his "grasp of politics isn't strong", joking that, for many years, he thought "OPEC was a denture adhesive".[3][4]
On August 6, 2019, New York City-based ViacomCBS announced that it would acquire Paws, Inc., including the rights to the Garfield franchise (the comics, merchandise and animated cartoons). Jim Davis will continue to make comics, and a new Garfield animated series is in production for ViacomCBS subsidiary Nickelodeon.
In 1973, while working as an assistant for T.K. Ryan's Tumbleweeds, Jim Davis created the comic strip Gnorm Gnat, which ran only in the Pendleton Times of Pendleton, Indiana from 1972 to 1975 and met with little success. One editor famously said "[Davis'] art was good, his gags were great, [but] nobody can identify with bugs."[6]
Davis decided to take a long, hard look at current comic strips to determine what species of animal star characters might be more popular. He felt that dogs were doing well, but noticed no prominent cats. Davis figured he could create a cat star, having grown up on a farm with twenty-five cats. Thus was created the character of Garfield.[6]
Garfield, the star, was based on the cats Davis grew up around; he took his name and personality from Davis' grandfather, James A. Garfield Davis, who was—in Davis' words—"a large, cantankerous man."[7] The name Jon Arbuckle came from a 1950s coffee commercial. Jon's roommate Lyman, added to give Jon someone to talk with, carried on the name of an earlier Gnorm Gnat character.[6] The final character was Lyman's dog Spot, who was later renamed Odie. From 1976 to early 1978, these characters appeared in a strip called Jon which also ran in the Times.[8] The early prototype strips were not generally well documented and were considered to be lost media until 2019 where a YouTube channel by the name of Quinton Reviews was able to retrieve several digital scans of the Jon publications from the Pendleton Community Library after gathering information via an obscure blogpost source mentioned within a page on the website Lost Media Wiki.[9][10] This strip first appeared in the Pendleton Times on January 8, 1976, just two weeks after Gnorm Gnat ended.
United Feature Syndicate accepted the strip for national distribution, which had been retitled Garfield on September 1, 1977, in March 1978 (ending its run in the Times on the 2nd) and made its nationwide debut in 41 newspapers on June 19 of that year (however, after a test run, the Chicago Sun-Times dropped it, only to reinstate it after readers' complaints).[1][11]
The Garfield Sunday strip was launched on June 25, 1978;[12] it was available only at a third-page size until March 22, 1981.[13] A half-page debuted the following Sunday, March 29.[14] The Sunday strips for March 14[15] and 21, 1982,[16] tried out a unique nine-panel format, but UFS curtailed further use of it. (UFS did, however, allow Davis to use the format for his later U.S. Acres strip.)
The strip underwent stylistic changes, evolving from the style of the 1976–83 strips, to a more cartoonish look from 1984 onward. This change has mainly affected Garfield's design, which underwent a "Darwinian evolution" in which he began walking on his hind legs, "slimmed down", and "stopped looking ... through squinty little eyes" His evolution, according to Davis, was to make it easier to "push Odie off the table" or "reach for a piece of pie."[17]
Garfield quickly became a commercial success. In 1981, less than three years after its nationwide launch, the strip appeared in 850 newspapers and accumulated over $15 million in merchandise. To manage the merchandise, Davis founded Paws, Inc.[11] In 1982 the strip was appearing in more than 1,000 newspapers.[18]
By 2002, Garfield became the world's most syndicated strip, appearing in 2,570 newspapers with 263 million readers worldwide;[1] by 2004, Garfield appeared in nearly 2,600 newspapers and sold from $750 million to $1 billion worth of merchandise in 111 countries.[19] In 1994, Davis's company, Paws, Inc., purchased all rights to the strips from 1978 to 1993 from United Feature. The strip is currently distributed by Universal Press Syndicate, while rights for the strip remain with Paws.
While retaining creative control and being the only signer, Davis now only writes and usually does the rough sketches. Since the late 1990s most of the work has been done by long-time assistants Brett Koth and Gary Barker. Inking and coloring work is done by other artists, while Davis spends most of the time supervising production and merchandising the characters.[19]
Garfield was originally created by Davis with the intention to come up with a "good, marketable character".[2] Now the world's most syndicated comic strip,[20] Garfield has spawned a "profusion"[19] of merchandise including clothing, toys, games, books, Caribbean cruises, credit cards, dolls,[21] DVDs of the movies or the TV series,[22] and related media.[23]
Garfield.com was the strip's official website, which contained archives of past strips along with games and an online store. Jim Davis had also collaborated with Ball State University and Pearson Digital Learning to create www.ProfessorGarfield.org, an educational website with interactive games focusing on math and reading skills, and with Children's Technology Group to create MindWalker, a web browser that allows parents to limit the websites their children can view to a pre-set list.[24][25][26]
A variety of edited Garfield strips had been made available on the Internet, some hosted on their own unofficial, dedicated sites. Dating from 2005, a site called the "Garfield Randomizer" created a three-panel strip using panels from previous Garfield strips.[27] Another approach, known as "Silent Garfield",[28] involved removing Garfield's thought balloons from the strips.[29] Some examples date from 2006.[30] A webcomic called Arbuckle does the above but also redraws the originals in a different art style. The Arbuckle website creator writes: "'Garfield' changes from being a comic about a sassy, corpulent feline, and becomes a compelling picture of a lonely, pathetic, delusional man who talks to his pets. Consider that Jon, according to Garfield canon, cannot hear his cat's thoughts. This is the world as he sees it. This is his story".[31] Another variation along the same lines, called "Realfield" or "Realistic Garfield", was to redraw Garfield as a real cat as well as removing his thought balloons.[32][33] Still another approach to editing the strips involved removing Garfield and other main characters from the originals completely, leaving Jon talking to himself. While strips in this vein could be found online as early as 2006,[30] the 2008 site Garfield Minus Garfield by Dan Walsh received enough online attention to be covered by news media. Reception was largely positive: at its peak, the site received as many as 300,000 hits per day. Fans connected with Jon's "loneliness and desperation" and found his "crazy antics" humorous; Jim Davis himself called Walsh's strips an "inspired thing to do" and said that "some of [the strips] work better [than the originals]".[34][35] Ballantine Books, which publishes the Garfield books, released a volume of Garfield Minus Garfield strips on October 28, 2008. The volume retains Davis as author and features a foreword by Walsh.[32]
On June 19, 2020, the website was shut down during the strip's 42nd anniversary, following Viacom's acquisition of Paws, Inc. in August 2019. The website now redirects to Nick.com, with an alternative link to GoComics.
Garfield's animation debut was on The Fantastic Funnies, which aired on CBS on May 15, 1980, voiced by actor Scott Beach. Garfield was one of the strips featured, introduced as a newcomer (the strip was only two years old at the time). From 1982 to 1991, twelve primetime Garfield cartoon specials and one hour-long primetime documentary celebrating the character's 10th anniversary were aired; Lorenzo Music voiced Garfield in all of them. A Saturday morning cartoon show, Garfield and Friends, aired for seven seasons from 1988 to 1994; this adaption also starred Music as the voice of Garfield. The Garfield Show, a CGI series, started development in 2007 to coincide with the strip's 30th anniversary the following year.[36] It premiered in France in December 2008 and made its U.S. debut on Cartoon Network on November 2, 2009. A new series is currently in development at Nickelodeon after the rights were acquired from Nickelodeon's parent company ViacomCBS.[37]
Garfield: The Movie was released in theaters on June 11, 2004. Its sequel, Garfield: A Tail of Two Kitties, was released on June 16, 2006. Garfield was voiced by actor Bill Murray in both films. Three direct-to-video films were released, Garfield Gets Real on August 9, 2007, Garfield's Fun Fest on August 5, 2008, and Garfield's Pet Force on June 16, 2009. On May 24, 2016, it was announced that Alcon Entertainment will develop a new CG animated Garfield movie with John Cohen and Steven P. Wegner ready to produce[50][51] and to be directed by Mark Dindal, director of Cats Don't Dance, The Emperor's New Groove and Chicken Little.[52] In August 2019, Viacom acquired the rights to Garfield, leaving the status of the movie uncertain.[5]
A Garfield video game was developed by Atari, Inc. for its Atari 2600 home video game system and appears in their 1984 catalog.[53] However, after Atari's spinoff and sale of its home games and computers division, owner Jack Tramiel decided the character's royalties were too expensive given the declining state of the video game industry at the time, and the game was cancelled.[54] A ROM image of the game was however released with Jim Davis' blessing.[54]
Garfield: Big Fat Hairy Deal is a 1987 video game for the Atari ST, ZX Spectrum, Commodore 64, Amstrad CPC and the Amiga based on the comic strip. Towa Chiki made A Week of Garfield for the Family Computer, released only in Japan in 1989. Sega also made video games based on Garfield for the Genesis (Garfield: Caught in the Act) and Windows 3.1 computers. Other companies made games, such as A Tale of Two Kitties for the DS, published by Game Factory, Garfield's Nightmare for DS, Garfield's Funfest for DS, and Garfield Labyrinth for Game Boy. On PlayStation 2 were Garfield and Garfield 2 (known in the US as Garfield, a Tale of Two Kitties). Garfield Lasagna World Tour was also made for PS2. Garfield: Saving Arlene was only released in Japan and in the United Kingdom. And recent additions for mobile devices are "Garfield's Diner" and "Garfield's Zombie Defense".
Konami also released a Garfield Handheld electronic game titled Lasagnator in 1991, which met with mild success.
In 2012, a series of Garfield video games was launched by French publisher Anuman Interactive, including My Puzzles with Garfield!, Multiplication Tables with Garfield, Garfield Kart, and Garfield's Match Up.[55]
Joseph Papp, producer of A Chorus Line, discussed making a Garfield stage musical, but due to some complications, it never got off ground. A full-length stage musical, titled "Garfield Live", was planned to kick off its US tour in September 2010, but got moved to January 18, 2011, where it premiered in Muncie, Indiana. The book was written by Jim Davis, with music and lyrics by Michael Dansicker and Bill Meade, and it was booked by AWA Touring Services. The opening song, "Cattitude" can be heard on the national tour's website, along with two more, "On the Fence", and "Going Home!".[56] When the North-American tour concluded in 2012, it toured throughout Asia.
In agreement with Paws, Boom! Studios launched in May 2012 a monthly Garfield comic book, with the first issue featuring a story written by Mark Evanier (who has supervised Garfield and Friends and The Garfield Show) and illustrated by Davis's long-time assistant Gary Barker.[57]
In 2016, Hermes Press signed an agreement with Paws, Inc to publish an art book on the art of author Jim Davis, titled The Art of Jim Davis' Garfield.[58] The book includes an essay by author R.C. Harvey and other original material, and was released in July 2016 for the San Diego Comic-Con.[58]
In 2018, a ghost restaurant themed after the franchise known as GarfieldEATS was opened in Dubai. The restaurant has been described by its founder and "Chief Entergage Officer" Nathen Mazri as a "quick mobile restaurant". Mazri claims that the restaurant is "entergaging", a portmanteau of the words "entertaining" and "engaging". Customers order food through the official mobile app, which also contains games and allows users to purchase episodes of Garfield and Friends. The restaurant serves lasagna, Garfield-shaped pizza, "Garfuccinos", and Garfield-shaped dark chocolate bars. A second location opened in Toronto in 2019.[59][60]
Garfield is an orange, fuzzy tabby cat born in the kitchen of an Italian restaurant (later revealed in the television special Garfield: His 9 Lives to be Mama Leoni's Italian Restaurant) who immediately ate all the pasta and lasagna in sight, thus developing his love and obsession for lasagna and pizza.[62][63]
Gags in the strips commonly deal with Garfield's obesity (in one strip, Jon jokes: "I wouldn't say Garfield is fat, but the last time he got on a Ferris wheel, the two guys on top starved to death"),[64] and his disdain of any form of exertion or work. He is known for saying "breathing is exercise".
Though Garfield can be very cynical, he does have a soft side for his teddy bear, Pooky, food and sleep, and in one Christmas he says: "They say I have to get up early, be nice to people, skip breakfast ... I wish it would never end." However, in the feature film Garfield Gets Real and its sequels, Garfield is better behaved, friendlier towards Jon and Odie, less self-centered, and more sympathetic.
It has been wondered by many readers if Garfield can actually be understood by the human characters around him. Sometimes, it seems like Jon can hear him. However, it is mentioned in more than one strip that Jon cannot understand Garfield.[65] However, in the feature film Garfield Gets Real and its sequels, Garfield and the other animals save for Odie are able to talk to, and be understood by, Jon and the other humans. In the April 1, (April Fools' Day) 1997 strip drawn by the artists of Blondie as part of the comic strip switcheroo,[66] Garfield, still with thought balloons, can be understood by Jon.
To break the fourth wall, June 19 is celebrated within the strip as Garfield's birthday. The appearance in 1979 claimed it to be his first birthday, although in the first appearance of the strip (June 19, 1978), he was portrayed as a fully-grown cat, implying that the birthday is of the strip itself.[67]
Jon (Jonathan Q. Arbuckle) is Garfield's owner, usually depicted as an awkward clumsy geek who has trouble finding a date. Jon had a crush on Liz (Garfield's veterinarian) and is now dating her. Jon disapproves of Garfield's "don't care, not interested", attitude, and often encourages his pet to take an interest in the world around him, sometimes stating an interesting fact, or asking a philosophical question in an attempt to prompt Garfield into thought, Garfield tends to brush this off with a simple, yet logical remark, and despite the trouble Garfield causes, Jon has a heart of gold and is very tolerant of Garfield's shortcomings, a fact which Garfield often takes advantage of. In the December 23, 1980 strip, Jon states that he is thirty years old (nominally meaning he should presently be in his sixties, although he has not aged physically). His birthday is July 28.[69][70]
Jon loves (or occasionally hates) Garfield and all cats. Many gags focus on this; his inability to get a date is usually attributed to his lack of social skills, his poor taste in clothes (Garfield remarked in one strip after seeing his closet that "two hundred moths committed suicide";[71] in another, the "geek police" ordered Jon to "throw out his tie"),[72] and his eccentric interests which range from stamp collecting to measuring the growth of his toenails to watching movies with "polka ninjas". Other strips portray him as lacking intelligence (he is seen reading a pop-up book in one strip).[73]
Jon was born on a farm that apparently contained few amenities; in one strip, his father, upon seeing indoor plumbing, remarks, "Woo-ha! Ain't science something?"[74] Jon occasionally visits his parents, brother and grandmother at their farm. It was implied that Jon is inspired by a drawing of Davis himself when he was first drawing the strip. Jon was portrayed as a cartoonist in the first strip[75] and occasional others in the early years; Davis stated his intent had been to express his own frustrations as a cartoonist. Ultimately, Jon's job has been referenced far more frequently in Garfield animated series than in the strip.
Odie is a yellow, long-eared beagle with a large, slobbering tongue, who walks on all four legs, though occasionally he will walk on two like Garfield. He was originally owned by Jon's friend Lyman, though Jon adopted him after Lyman was written out of the strip. The book Garfield: His 9 Lives (1984) retcons Odie's origin: there is no mention of Lyman, and Odie was a puppy when he was acquired by Jon as company for Garfield (when Garfield was a kitten). Odie is younger than Garfield and usually portrayed as naïve, happy, affectionate and blissfully unaware of Garfield's cynical, sadistic nature, despite the physical abuse Garfield exhibits toward him, including regularly kicking him off the kitchen table or tricking him into going over the edge himself. On some occasions, however, he is depicted more intelligently, as one strip, in which he holds a heavy rock to prevent Garfield from doing this, and actually hurts Garfield's foot. In one strip when Garfield and Jon are out of the house, Odie is seen reading War and Peace and watching An Evening With Mozart on television.[78] Odie has only talked once. In another strip, published on January 28, 2010, he is seen solving Jon's sudoku puzzle.
Dr. Liz Wilson is Garfield and Odie's sarcastic veterinarian and a long time crush of Jon Arbuckle. She has a somewhat deadpan, sardonic persona and almost always reacts negatively to Jon's outlandish and goofball behavior but can even find it endearing on occasion. Jon often attempted to ask her out on a date, but rarely succeeded; however, in an extended story arc from June 19 to July 29, 2006 (the main event on July 28), Liz and Jon kiss, and have been a couple ever since.[80]
Many of the gags focus on Garfield's obsessive eating and obesity; his dislike of spiders; his hatred of Mondays, diets, and any form of exertion; his constant shedding (which annoys Jon); and his abuse of Odie and Jon as well as his obsession with mailing Nermal to Abu Dhabi, or simply throwing him through the front door. Though he will eat nearly anything (with the exception of raisins and spinach), Garfield is particularly fond of lasagna; he also enjoys eating Jon's houseplants and other pets (mainly birds and fish). He also has odd relationships with household pests; Garfield generally spares mice, and even cooperates with them to cause mischief (much to Jon's chagrin), but will readily swat or pound spiders flat. Other gags focus on Jon's poor social skills and inability to get a date; before he started dating Liz, he often tried to get dates, usually without success (in one strip, after failing to get a date with "Nancy", he tries getting a date with her mother and grandmother; he ended up getting "shot down by three generations").[81] When he does get a date, it usually goes awry; Jon's dates have slashed his tires, been tranquilized, and called the police when he stuck carrots in his ears. The storylines featuring Jon's dates rarely appear now. Before, he had dates with many odd characters, whereas now, he exclusively dates Liz.
Garfield's world has specific locations that appear normally on the comic strips, like the Vet's office, a place he loathes. Irma's Diner is another occasional setting. Irma is a chirpy but slow-witted and unattractive waitress/manager, and one of Jon's few friends. The terrible food is the center of most of the jokes, along with the poor management. Jon periodically visits his parents and brother on the farm. This results in week-long comical displays of stupidity by Jon and his family, and their interactions. There is a comic strip where Jon's brother Doc Boy is watching two socks in the dryer spinning and Doc Boy calls it entertainment. On the farm, Jon's mother will cook huge dinners; Garfield hugs her for this. Jon has a grandmother who, in a strip, kicked Odie; Garfield subsequently hugged her. Jon's parents have twice visited Jon, Garfield, and Odie in the city. Jon's father drove into town on his tractor (which he double-parked) and brought a rooster to wake him up. As Garfield has a love for food, they will often eat out at restaurants. Most trips end up embarrassing because Garfield will pig out, or Jon will do something stupid, including wearing an ugly shirt, which happened one night when he took Liz on a date. When Jon takes Liz on a date, Garfield occasionally tags along—once, he ate the bread and other food at an Italian restaurant they went to.[82] Frequently, the characters break the fourth wall, mostly to explain something to the readers, talk about a subject that often sets up the strip's punchline (like Jon claiming that pets are good for exercise right before he finds Garfield in the kitchen and chases him out),[83] or give a mere glare when a character is belittled or not impressed. Sometimes, this theme revolves around the conventions of the strip; for example, in one strip, Garfield catches a cold and complains about it, noting that his thoughts are stuffed up.[84]
One particular semi-recurring storyline features Jon and Liz on a date in a restaurant. They sometimes are waited on by the Italian Armando, who is refined and sophisticated and shows a great loathing towards Jon, presumably for his immature and uncouth behavior at the prestigious eatery. On other occasions, the couple receives a different waiter, such as a large ogre-like man who intimidates Jon when he is about to report a complaint about the food.
Another commonly recurring character, although hardly ever seen, is Jon's neighbor, Mrs. Feeny. Garfield seems to take both enormous pride and excess zeal in doing whatever it takes to harass her, to the point the she even erects an electric fence (which of course, does not stop him).
Other unique themes are things like "Garfield's Believe it or Don't",[85] "Garfield's Law",[86] "Garfield's History of Dogs",[87] and "Garfield's History of Cats",[88] which show science, history, and the world from Garfield's point of view. Another particular theme is "National Fat Week", where Garfield spends the week making fun of skinny people. Also, there was a storyline involving Garfield catching Odie eating his food and "kicking Odie into next week".[89] Soon, Garfield realizes that "Lunch isn't the same without Odie. He always slips up behind me, barks loudly and makes me fall into my food" (Garfield subsequently falls into his food by himself).[90] A few days after the storyline began, Garfield is lying in his bed with a "nagging feeling I'm forgetting something", with Odie landing on Garfield in the next panel.[91] Jon and Liz began to go out more frequently, Jon has started hiring pet sitters to look after Garfield and Odie, though they do not always work out. Two particular examples are Lillian, an eccentric (and very nearsighted) old lady with odd quirks, and Greta, a muscle bound woman who was hired to look after the pets during New Year's Eve. Most of December is spent preparing for Christmas, with a predictable focus on presents. Other Christmas themed strips include Jon's attempts at decorating the tree and house, or the attempt to buy the tree. Some years, the Christmas strips started as early as the end of November. Another example is "Splut Week", when Garfield tries to avoid pies that are thrown at him. For most of Garfield's history, being hit with a pie has inevitably resulted in the onomatopoeia "splut", hence the name.
Every week before June 19, the strip focuses on Garfield's birthday, which he dreads because of his fear of getting older. This started happening after his sixth birthday. However, before his 29th birthday, Liz put Garfield on a diet. On June 19, 2007, Garfield was given the greatest birthday present: "I'M OFF MY DIET!" Occasionally the strip celebrates Halloween as well with scary-themed jokes, such as mask gags. There are also seasonal jokes, with snow-related gags common in January or February and beach- or heat-themed jokes in the summer.
One storyline, which ran the week before Halloween in 1989, is unique among Garfield strips in that it is not meant to be humorous.[92] It depicts Garfield awakening in a future in which the house is abandoned and he no longer exists.
One of the recurring storylines involves Garfield getting lost or running away. The longest one of these lasted for over a month (in 1986 August 25 to September 28); it began with Jon telling Garfield to go get the newspaper. Garfield walks outside to get it, but speculates about what will happen if he wanders off – and decides to find out. Jon notices Garfield has been gone too long, so he sends Odie out to find him. He quickly realizes his mistake (Odie, being not too bright, also gets lost). Jon starts to get lonely, so he offers a reward for the return of Garfield and Odie. He is not descriptive, so animals including an elephant, monkeys, a seal, a snake, a kangaroo and joey, and turtles are brought to Jon's house for the reward. After a series of events, including Odie being adopted by a small girl, both pets meeting up at a circus that they briefly joined, and both going to a pet shop, Garfield and Odie make it back home.
Another story involved Jon going away on a business trip around Christmas time, leaving Garfield a week's worth of food, which he devoured instantly. Garfield then leaves the house and gets locked out. He then reunites with his mother, and eventually makes it back home in the snow on Christmas Eve (December 3–23, 1984). Part of this storyline was taken from the 1983 Emmy-winning special Garfield on the Town.
Paws, Inc.[93] was founded in 1981 by Jim Davis to support the Garfield comic strip and its licensing. It is located in Muncie, Indiana, and has a staff of nearly 50 artists and licensing administrators. In 1994, the company purchased all rights to the Garfield comic strips from 1978 to 1993 from United Feature Syndicate. However, the original black and white daily strips and original color Sunday strips remain copyrighted to United Feature Syndicate. The full color daily strips and recolored Sunday strips are copyrighted to Paws as they are considered a different product. Though rights to the strip remain with Paws, Inc., it is currently distributed by Universal Press Syndicate. In August 2019, Davis sold Paws, Inc. to Viacom, who has placed Garfield under the Nickelodeon banner.[5]
Davis attracted criticism from the media for a Garfield strip in which the last panel appeared to be a negative reference to Veterans Day that appeared in newspapers on November 11, 2010. In the strip, a spider who is about to be squashed by Garfield boasts that if he is squished, he will get a holiday in his remembrance. The next panel shows a classroom of spiders in which a teacher asks the students why spiders celebrate "National Stupid Day", implying that the spider was squished.[94] Davis quickly apologized for the poorly timed comic strip, saying that it had been written a year in advance and that both his brother and son were veterans.[95]
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2020.10.01 00:06 dolfan4life2 I don’t understand how Pam gets all this hate when Phyllis Vance is THE. WORST.

She has always been one of the people I feel like gets a pass because she doesn’t really have storylines that revolve around her but there are plenty of instances of her being terrible:
-She literally steals Pam and Roy’s entire wedding, down to the invitations and never thinks to tell Pam -Flirts with men in bars just so Bob will assault and injure them strictly for her personal pleasure -Rudely leaves Pam and Jim during lunch to have sex with Bob in a public bathroom -Manipulates her knowledge of Angela’s affair to basically make Angela her servant on the PPC -When Jim and Pam announce they’re dating she tells Pam she can’t assign new customers based on whoever she’s sleeping with that week -Her comment about how if she wanted Jamaican food she’d hire some bodyguards and go down there
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2020.10.01 00:05 UMNProfessor If you are struggling with mental health or finances here's how to get help

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2020.10.01 00:05 SuperfriendsK r/psychicdevelopment community questions:

Sorry...I just figured out how Mod Mail works!
Here are question for the community sent from member:
  1. Hello, I just found and joined this sub. But I'm having a hard time to understand what this site is about. Can you please help me with that?
The sub was created by previous mods to help others develop psychic abilities. I took it over with the intention of having an open forum of psychic's talking about psychic stuff, without the spam of psychic and the riddles of occult.
Another answer is...my own personal "public" dairy?
2. Hi there! How do I select a tarot card flair? Thanks!
Under stats of who is online is the sub creation date and below is community options. Click on Community options and there will be a pencil...click the pencil and choose a Tarot Card.
Any other questions for the community please feel free to post here...or if you have a better answer!
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2020.10.01 00:03 Joeyster5000 My sister is seeing a semi-popular YouTuber and it's making me a little insecure

So I'm a 19-year-old dude from a small town (technically a village) with a population of two thousand. I was pretty popular in high school but I have a really hard time making close friendships and romantic relationships because of my autism. But the friends I have and my sister always thought I was really cool. But I'm not so sure about that anymore since I found out about my sister's new boyfriend-to-be. He's this guy that makes videos on YouTube and he has a million subscribers and his videos are always on the trending page (I'm not gonna name him to protect his and my sister's privacy). She lives about an hour away from me, in a big city, and she met him on a dating app. And she plans to invite him to our family get-together next month. She never heard of his channel before meeting him, but she watches it now, and my friends have been watching his videos for years. They're really excited that they might get to meet him in person. I'm excited for them and for my sister since she seems to really like him. He seems like a cool guy. But I started to get insecure about it last night. See, I'm getting promoted to being a manager of the car wash I've worked at for years. It's really cool, especially for someone my age and considering how much I struggle with my developmental disorder. And my friends were all excited for me, but last night my friend said "Sorry, man. You becoming a manager is cool and all, but you can't outdo your sister dating a YouTube celebrity". Like I said, I'm really happy for her and I know it's selfish and envious of me to say this, but I'm afraid that they're all not gonna think I'm cool anymore. I mean, I have a YouTube channel but it only has 50 subscribers. How am I supposed to compete with a million? I'm a total loser in comparison! I'm not mad at the guy or anything, just insecure. What do I do?
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2020.10.01 00:00 Life_Atlas Do I Have a Chance Still?

My girlfriend of almost 1.5 years broke up with me the other day. It's important to note that we were LDR, never met in person. I'm 16 and male, my now-ex 18, female. Our relationship was genuinely near perfect, as far as relationships go. We had our fair share of fights, one within our first month about her being a little bit of a hippie, one three months in where a girl tried to make it seem as if I was cheating on her, and almost succeeded in breaking us up then, and the other big fight was in June, about how many tattoos she should have. Overall, we only had fights every 2-3 months or so, and almost all of them were resolved quickly, and resulted in us having a stronger bond than before. However, there was one aspect of my personality that was causing issues, that I had no awareness of the damage it was causing:

Every time I disagree with someone on something, especially music or movies, I go on rants, "here's why this sucks". Your Favorite Band Sucks, basically, but worded worse and with a little less research (and less funny). I've been doing this for years, since probably 6th grade, and it was at its worst freshman year of High School. So she started falling in love with me when I was at peak terrible.
I improved, sure. Maybe a paragraph at most, during the last year or so. But very certain moments happened. September 2019, we got in a fight because I told her that she ignores the qualities of films just because it has vampires and goth aesthetics in it, after she told me Queen of the Damned was her favorite movie. I really started improving myself after that. But during the last month or so, she's been getting really into BTS, and I'm like "fuck BTS". Only once have I gone into any detail, and that was because I said I had been getting into SuperM, so I was comparing the two. Once, she said that she loved White Chicks. So what did my dumbass do? List off tons of comedies that I think are better. Not just one or two.
Let's get into the outside influences here: Her dad is emotionally abusive, and she had to move out because she wasn't eating almost anything because she was being fat-shamed by him (She's a healthy weight, chubby, not fat). A week ago, he and her new step-mom have been texting her, trying to make her out to be a terrible person, never posting about her on their social medias, etc. Texting her best friend, stuff like that. On top of that, as of this writing my now-ex is waiting for her ultrasound, as we're pretty sure she has either Ovarian Cysts or Fibroids, so emotionally and physically, she's been doing awful.

Here are the other things worth noting: I never called enough. Many things went into this, anxiety, not having time, being a fool and trying to plan a full day for it, etc. I really only started to get over it a few months ago, and our schedules have both been busy enough that we were never able to really call. The other thing is her awful childhood, which I really don't want to fully go into, but it's like reading Mommy Dearest and shit with molestation, being locked in the attic overnight at age 8, etc, so this stuff really does affect your mental wellbeing a decade later.
All of these are details I learned yesterday:
  1. She tried to distance herself for a few days so it didn't seem out of nowhere.
  2. She only lost her love for me about a week ago
I found out by asking her what was going on, as she removed my name from her Instagram bio, and was having a conversation in the group chat the day after telling me she didn't want to talk to people. She still wants to remain friends, and she said she needed to be single for a year or two, at least, until she figured herself out. Things ARE awkward right now, but that's to be expected.
Now for the question: Do I still have a chance? Even though I accidentally mentally abused her by shaming her for her interests, should I wait a couple years and be there for her if/when she's ready to date again? We were technically fiancés, and she still wants me as a part of her life in some capacity no matter what, and it'll be a year before I even move on properly, and having a woman as a "stop-over" of sorts is a gross thing to do. Do I wait it out?

It's also worth nothing that all the specifics are confirmed, she does want me as a friend, she's not entirely sure, nor ready, to see if we'll get back together. We talked about what went wrong this morning, and these ARE the problems. We both want to be a part of each other's life's in some way, because we both still care about each other.
It's sad because we never got to touch each other, cuddle, go shopping together.......nothing. We worked together extremely well, and got our bullshit figured out better than most, but the smaller things added up, and in the emotional turmoil of the last month, ended up being too much for her.....
She had given me a reason to care about my self and my future, and I'm in a state of shock, loss, and I don't have almost anything to really hold onto right now.
I'll end this with a quote from her, the main thing keeping me going:
"If we're truly soulmates, then we'll find each other again"


Edit: I live in Oregon, she lives in Kentucky
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2020.09.30 23:59 throwawayuser2200 I got an interview! But I'll be working. What do I do?

Some backstory. I wasn't even looking for a job. In fact, for the most part, I like where I work. But since COVID happened, I was told that keeping an up to date resume was a good idea. Well, I got a message about a posting that's basically the same thing I'm doing now but with a shorter commute and more money.

I figured 'what the hey', and put my name in. I got a phone interview! And it went very well. So well in fact they want to see me on Friday in person. Only problem is that I'll be working during that time.

There are 3 reasons why I'm interested in this new job at all:
1) Shorter commute. Right now I'm 45 mins one way. This new job is 10 mins
2) More money. I make good money now. This new job is a 13% bump in salary, and it's for basically the same thing (maybe a little more responsibilities, but I'm okay with that)
3) It's new/fresh, possibly more stable. Things at my work are getting crazy, morale is super low, turnover is high, and we have 1 customer. COVID didn't help our production, and it doesn't seem to be getting better. Not just that, but recently I was asked to do something that as far as I can tell is either illegal or very unethical by my boss' boss. So there's that...

In any case I'm interested in what this company has to offer. So how do I say I want an interview, but at the same time I don't want to be unfaithful to my current employer?
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2020.09.30 23:58 MoreSalamander6 I'm buried under so many bad and scary thoughts, and I'm having so much trouble seeing a way out... (32M)

I've been having a really, really hard time for the last few weeks. I've recently developed feelings for my best and closest friend, and while I keep wondering if little things she says says and does could give me hope, and while she definitely has an attachment to me and has explicitly said she wants me in her life long term, I think it's safe to say she sees me as too much of a friend to consider me. So, I don't know that I can ever tell her how I feel without potentially losing the friendship, and I really don't want that, as she's very important to me.
So, having to swallow down these feelings is hard enough. But it just really kinda breaks my heart thinking that two people who can potentially be so good together just can't get together. And don't get me wrong, I'm not naïve enough to think we'd be "perfect" together, or anything, I mean, obviously you can't know such things without actually dating someone. But we have such a great foundation to build off of. Even before I fell for her, just as a friend, she's someone I'd do anything for. I always have her back, and I'm confident she has mine.
Even though she only recently ended her very long term relationship, it's probably not going to be very long before she finds her new guy. And I do want her to be happy more than anything. But there's always going to be a part of me that wishes it could be me. I wish I could be the guy that makes her heart race, that she has a twinkle in her eye for, that she wants to hold close and never let go. I want to be the guy that gives her everything she wants out of life (heck, we both want the same things, so that would be a mutual gain).
And I keep thinking, too, how will things be when she finds her next partner? I think we were all pretty lucky that me and her ex got along well, but what if me and her next guy don't have much in common? What if he doesn't like me very much? What if he doesn't appreciate some guy spending time with and talking to his girlfriend? I mean, I trust her that she doesn't want to lose me out of her life, so I don't think she'd just drop me because some guy wants her to, but realistically, the odds of her finding a new guy that I can also be buddies with doesn't seem super high, to me, and I don't know what that means for me and her.
I dunno. I've never been able to date, ever, and as badly as I want to be with someone, I've never found anyone that gets me excited about the idea of dating. Much like everyone else, I always hoped that I'd find a partner that would be my best friend. Sadly, I've found my best friend, but... It looks like I can't ever be with her, at least not as more than that.
And to be honest, that scares me, because I can't really imagine meeting someone that excites me more than my friend does, someone I truly care about as much as I do my friend. And as much as I want to be with someone, I don't want to end up in a relationship where my partner isn't someone I truly "love". I don't want my partner to be someone that makes me think "Eh, I guess this is fine". But given my track record, along with my current feelings, and I just don't see how I could have anything but.
I dunno. In general, I wouldn't say I'm an unhappy or depressed person at all. But all these recent thoughts and feelings are bogging me down quite a lot lately. I don't feel like myself, I've lost interest in most things, I can't get much sleep at night. And I just don't know what to even do with myself, at this point.
Is there any light at the end of the tunnel for me? What can I do to get myself out of this hole I seem to be burying myself deeper and deeper into? How can I start feeling like myself again?
TL;DR - Between strong feelings for a friend that I probably shouldn't ever pursue, and what feels like a bleak outlook on relationships, I'm in a really bad place, emotionally, and I don't know how to get out.
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2020.09.30 23:56 MigunosOptometrist [CH125] Concerns About a Wolf's Mouth - Not so Scary as a Rabbit's!

Inspired by one of Black4Mate's fantastic drawings from the manga - go check them out, give them a well-earned upvote! If you have any comments on this, I'll probably be looking for them there. Seriously though, check out the drawings, they're wicked nice and capture a lot of the classics from the manga very well.
black4mate's drawing, Day 87!
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Haru's dad, *still slightly concerned*: "Haru, honey.... he seems nice, but are you sure this is a great idea?"
Haru's mom: "We just want you to be safe."
Haru, *getting irritated*: "I know that. Sometimes I wonder if you want me to be happy. Or if I'm just supposed to stay quiet and hope something comes my way. That's boring. I met someone who makes me happy, and treats me like I'm worth something - and I'm not going to throw that away because of some stupid concerns!"
Haru's dad: "Sorry, Haru. We do care, we just...."
Haru, *yelling*: "You want to know safe? You want me to be safe? Do you know how I met him? What he did for me? Or did you just see him and think that some poor dwarf rabbit like me is just going to get herself eaten?"
Haru: "Maybe some other wolf. But not Legoshi." *starts heading up to her room*
Haru's mom: "I'm sure a lot of rabbits might say that, Ha-"
Haru, *turning back over her shoulder*: "Maybe! But how many of them can prove it?"
*Haru's parents look up for a moment, somewhat surprised*
Haru's mom: "What do you mean, honey?"
Haru, *calming down and preparing*: "You want me to be safe, because you love me. Well, next to that wolf? There isn't a place in the world I'm safer. When I was still at Cherryton....."
Haru's dad: "You never really told us anything about that. Why no visits?"
Haru: "It was, hard. I was working through things. Anyway, I met him when we bumped into one another in the gardening club. Just us two, and he was terrified to talk to me. In spite of that, he helped me, and when I badly mistook his intentions..... he covered me up and left so quickly he slammed his tail in the door!" *lamenting* "I think his fur still doesn't grow great there.... it must have hurt. He sure yelled loud!"
*Parents listening carefully now*
Haru's dad: "What's that got to do with anything?"
Haru: "He treated me as a person. Since that, he liked to walk with me, and talk with me. It's all he asked. Even when I was kidnapped ..." *chokes up a bit, it's still a hard memory for her*
*Parents mouths agape, shocked*
Haru: "Yes. I was kidnapped by a bunch of lions - meat dealers in the market. Their boss wanted a nice white rabbit to eat, and I fit the bill."
Haru: "I was terrified. My life was flashing before my eyes, as I thought back on it. I didn't cooperate like the boss wanted me to, and he was going to make sure I paid a price for that. Right as he had me there, ready to start biting off limbs and my ears - he showed up. He didn't say a thing, he showed up, and hit the lion off, before throwing me his shirt to cover up." *chuckling a bit* "He even apologized for it being smelly. You see, to get there? He'd fought through most of the other lions. He came to save his friend. You saw him, he's jumpy, doesn't say too much, and just tries not to make a scene. He wants to get on with everybody."
Haru's dad: "You mean.... he...."
Haru: "Yea. I've never seen anyone that angry, but you know something? The entire time I've known him, he's shown his fangs to plenty of people who've tried to hurt me. I don't know what that looks like. I've never seen anything but a smile."
Haru: "He even apologized for how violent he had to be in order to save me. He was *terrified*, daddy. He was so scared, that even fighting off a lion like that, he apologized for me seeing that side of him. Like he would scare me too."
Haru: "He won. And he looked at me, and offered out his hand - mine was shaking, but I could tell how unsure he was. I took it, and do you know what this wolf, who had just viciously torn down a lion and been fighting all night to save me, who was covered in cuts and blood did? He pulled me in, and he hugged me. Tight. He was just happy I was safe, but I could tell he was even happier that I had taken his hand."
Haru: "What scares me is being lonely, so scared to take risks that I let life pass me by. That was the warmest embrace I'd ever gotten, and in all of this, he hadn't asked for anything in return. He risked death for me because I was worth something to him, and you're worried he's going to hurt me? I hadn't even indicated I cared for him yet."
Haru: "Of course, afterwards, he was starving...."
*look of horror on her parent's faces*
Haru, *giving a smug smile at having made her point*: "So, he went and bought me some soba noodles with the few hundred yen he kept in his shoe."
*Haru's dad thinks for a moment about how inexpensive soba noodles are versus how much she just said.... raises an eyebrow, but stays quiet*
Haru: "With him, I can live. I'm not afraid when he's around, and he has nothing but love for me, I see it in his eyes and when his tail can't even stop wagging the moment he notices I'm around. He's not going to hurt me, either of you. He's frankly, the reason I'm still here, and the reason I can smile again."
Haru: "Please, don't raise your concerns with him. He's spent his whole life with others being scared of him, and he's isolated and been lonely to try and avoid it. He wouldn't hurt anyone who wouldn't hurt me, or his friends. But, that judgement hurts him. Every time I see someone staring at us, staring at him, with that tinge of fear, I see the cut it leaves on his spirit. He's changed a lot, and I'm thrilled that I had some role to play in that - but when I met him, he was aloof and depressive. I think about the only time he smiled is when he was with me. That alone means something. So, please, I'm begging you - don't do that to him. It hurts him, so much, and if it was from my parents, I think that'd really cut him."
Haru's parents: "Haru..... we wouldn't... dream..."
Haru: "But you brought it up with me. That was too much. I don't want to hear it again either. It makes Legoshi sad, and it makes me think of him being sad. You want me to be happy? Don't make me think of those eyes dulling every time someone hurts him like that. Legoshi's been hurt far more than he'll hurt anyone, and if anything, I have to help keep him from hurting himself, not from hurting me. I'm safe, and he fought 35 lions and nearly killed one to do ensure that."
Haru: "So yes, mom. Maybe a lot of rabbits might say that to get cheap points, or imagine they're socially progressive, or special somehow. But me? I *am* special. I'm not just some dwarf rabbit who risks being killed at a moment's notice in this hard world. I'm *his* dwarf rabbit, and that means I have nothing to worry about. Only the world does, if it'd try anything. He doesn't speak much, but his actions do, and I know he loves me with all his being - and I've seen first hand just how much he's willing to do to make sure I can stay smiling."
Haru: "Anyone who would take that from me, try to wipe that smile off my face. Well, I hope they've got 36 lions handy."
Haru's dad: "Alright, Haru. I believe you. He could hardly stop himself from saying it in the car on the way to the station. I guess he wanted someone to know how much he cared for you."
Haru, *slightly haughty*: *hmmmpf* "Legoshi already makes sure I know how much he cares for me. He just doesn't like to be rude or give orders - he was probably just telling you how it was going to be. I'd listen, if I were you. Cause I am a bit more willing to yell about it."
Haru's parents: *laughing slightly, before Haru's dad gives her mom a quick sideways glance*
Haru's dad: "Though, honey.... You mentioned he bought you soba noodles, but said he had several hundred yen on him.... they don't cost that much. Or at least, not any place I know of. Where'd the rest of it go? I didn't notice any in his shoes when he came by....."
Haru: *freezes up completely, goes totally red, and just non responsive*
Haru, *clearly trying to tell a lie on the spot*: "He ummmm, dropped it! The back alley market is a scary place, lots of hoodlums and stuff! Probably swiped it before he'd gotten his shoe off! Yea! He was pretty beat up after everything, so they probably took advantage of that. And it's not like I was in a position to do anything! Clearly!" *awkwardly laughing, doing everything can can to avoid making eye contact as she quickly moves to go to her room*
Haru's mom: "Okay dear, no worries. We're satisfied, and we're sorry for questioning your friend like that."
Haru's dad: "Can I at least ask him about the money?"
Haru: "NO! NO YOU MAY NOT! EVER!" *just pictures Legoshi basically needing an ambulance from even his autonomic processes stopping, going blue from not breathing, when confronted with such an innocent question.* "Don't be mean like that! He's my boyfriend, so you need to be nice! And that means not asking questions like that! He deals with a lot, the last thing he wants to do is have to account for getting robbed! It's a bad memory for him! Yea!"
*Haru's parents thoroughly unconvinced, but they just give her a doubting face and leave it be*
Haru, *thinking, as a wistful smile briefly comes over her face and she enters dreamland*: "Not a bad memory for me, though. Oh no, those were the best soba noodles I've ever had. It was cute watching him snore like that, too. Scary wolf, my butt."
Haru's mom: "Okay, dear. Dinner's in an hour or two - you can bring your friend over if you like." *talking to her father* "That's true though... soba noodles are only a few yen..... Do you thin-?"
Haru, *yelling from the top of the stairs*: "HE GOT ROBBED OR SOMETHING! JUST LEAVE IT ALONE! IT MAKES HIM FEEL BAD!"
Haru's dad: "We ought to have that fellow over again. He was so nice, and he makes Haru smile. Plus, as her father, I wouldn't be doing my duty properly if I didn't make her squirm from time to time. Good lad, handling our Haru like he does."
Haru's mom: "Your parents never did that to us. Be nice! Haru deserves to be happy, and the last thing she needs is for you to scare that wonderful wolf of hers off with too much curiosity. Haru's a good girl, she knows what she's doing."
Haru's dad, *muttering, not liking how her mom scolded him for being too inquisitive*: "Fine, fine. Maybe we ought to make sure he knows what *he's* getting into."
Haru's mom: "True. It is Haru, after all...... but let's just watch, I think it'll be quiet entertaining." *chuckles* "I certainly enjoyed playing that game when we were dating."
Haru, *muttering, upstairs having heard some of this*: "i hOpE He kNoWs wHaT He's gEtTiNg iNtO"
Haru: "And now they're probably kissing now..." *grabs her ears and pulls them over her face* "Why me? I just love my wolf..... Daddy had better keep his mouth shut!" *gasp, and a look of horror as she thinks of all the stories he can tell* "Daddy's mouth is way bigger than Legoshi's.... and " *gulps nervously, her face scrunching with embarrassment, memories flooding* "and he doesn't share Legoshi's restraint..... that's something scary."
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2020.09.30 23:51 Papelucho-marciano I don’t want to be and asshole, but this relationship is too much for me

First then all, English is not my first language, that is why, maybe I could make same mistake on my grammar. I’m a guy on my early 30’s just recently dating a girl couple years older then I. She is really amazing in a lot of things, really beautiful, smart, a good college degree, she used to be a really successful businesswoman and she is a very good person, some of her friends say she is to good for her own good. And there is the starting point on this story. We just meet on the beginning of the Covid pandemic, we are currently living in a small town literally in the middle of nowhere, and start dating very fast, we kind of make and instant click. She is going on bankruptcy right now, and with two lawsuits against her, she was easily scam and one of those is for and amount equal to one year of my salary. She don’t have more savings for keep the business or defending her self from the lawsuit. On the other side I have my dream job, I earn enough money for living and saving. And even if I know I can access to a different kind of job and earn maybe double of my current salary, I don’t do it, because years ago, I just to have it and end of bad for me, I was with stress disorder and panic attack. I know then I’m very bad handling and stressful situation, my usual reaction in a fight or fly situation is fly, is one big defect of my self, and I working on it. The last two months I been working for her for free on my free time, and paying her bills. She promise she will pay me back. But I don’t see then this bad situation is gonna end of well for her, that’s why I’m starting to sleep bad this last couple days, and even I notice then I been more cold and distance, I don’t want to be like these, but the stress is stronger then I. I know she is in a bad place right now, she sometimes cry all night. I right now I hating my self for thinking on this, but this is to much for me, and I thinking in breaking out with her, she is and amazing woman, but maybe this red flag to big for me. I don’t want to leave her, but these is more then I can handle
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2020.09.30 23:51 NecessaryWorm232 Am I wrong for splitting my visitation schedule between my son and daughter?

I have 2 children by 2 women. My oldest was a boy with a girl I dated in high school. My second was a girl with my ex-wife, born five years after my son.
Several years ago, when the children were 3 and 8, my son abused my daughter while I had both visiting for a weekend. He was mimicking abuse that was taking place in his mother's home. He has not been back in my home since. I have only been visiting him during the day here and there. Both kids have been in counseling, the man who abused my son is in prison, and all legal issues have been resolved.
The children have not seen each other. For one because the counselors involved said it was not in their best interest yet and also my daughter's mom (my ex wife) has been adamant that they should never see each other again. The children are now both older than either of them was when the abuse took place.
Both their counselors have stated it's time for them to be reunited as siblings and both children want to be, however my ex wife still balks. I understand her feelings, however my son has not set foot in my house in many years now and I feel this is unfair. I have two weekends off of work a month. Both of these weekends used to be spent with my daughter visiting me. I have lately changed this and said that, if both children cannot be in my home together, then one weekend is for my daughter to visit and the other is for my son to visit.
My ex wife has started filling my daughter's head with ideas that I am choosing not to see her as often because I don't love her as much anymore. My ex has also accused me of choosing my son over my daughter because I "took her weekends away to give to him." She also lives 3 hours away, so altering days is not an option.
My ex wife refuses to undergo any kind of counseling and insists that she is the only sane person in the situation. Am I wrong for changing my visitation schedule so I can share my time off between my children, since she is unwilling to consider allowing them both to visit me together?
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2020.09.30 23:49 ChristianL1 I’m having trouble mentally and I’m not entirely sure what I am supposed to do or how to do it

I’m a 20 yo M, the women I am currently dating is lovely. Most definitely wife material, she holds it down for me and is loyal. She truly cares about me and us as a whole. The problem is there was this great person I met a couple years ago and I haven’t been able to get her out of my head. When me and the person I met two years ago I wasn’t dating the women I am currently. We’ve always enjoyed each other’s time together, this was when I was in college and since we have hung out as well only a couple times considering the distance between us but it was like we haven’t missed a beat. I see her in my dreams as well. I just don’t know what to do considering the person I am with now is lovely as well and she hasn’t done anything wrong, and I do love her. I’m just lost, I feel like the one I met in college is the one I am supposed to be with, I think about her everyday but I try to stop.
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2020.09.30 23:49 The97Revolution Week 5 Match-up Preview Thread: FAU Owls vs. Charlotte 49ers

FAU vs. Charlotte
When: Saturday, October, 3, 04:00 PM Eastern
Where: FAU Stadium - Boca Raton, FL
Watch: ESPNU
Odds: FAU by 6.0 pts.
Total Points: 62.5
All-Time Series : FAU vs. Charlotte
FAU and Charlotte have met 5 times since 09/26/2015.
These teams last met 368 days ago on 09/28/2019.
Series Wins: FAU 3-0-2 Charlotte
Longest streak of continuous meetings: 5 (2015-2019).
FAU has won the most recent meeting (2019) in this series.
Last 5 Meetings
Winner Date Location FAU Charlotte Notes
FAU 2019-09-28 Charlotte, NC 45 27
Charlotte 2018-11-24 Boca Raton, FL 24 27
FAU 2017-11-25 Charlotte, NC 31 12
Charlotte 2016-10-09 Boca Raton, FL 23 28
FAU 2015-09-26 Charlotte, NC 17 7
Series Comparison Data via Winsipedia
Through Week 4
Week FAU 0-0(0-0) Result Charlotte 0-1(0-0) Result
1 BYE N/A BYE N/A
2 BYE N/A Appalachian State 2-1(0-0) L 20-35
3 BYE N/A BYE N/A
4 BYE N/A BYE N/A
All rankings reflect the current /cfb poll
FAU Injury Report
Data Scraped: 2020-09-30 15:00:03
Player Position Status Reported Notes
Eyin Cole WR Out For Season – Personal Wed, Sep 16 Cole has informed the program that he will sit out the entire 2020 season due to a personal decision.
John Mitchell WR Out For Season – Knee Tue, Sep 8 Mitchell will miss the entire 2020 season with a knee injury.
La Darius Henry CB Out For Season – Personal Sun, Sep 6 Henry has announced that he will sit out the entire 2020 season due to concerns about COVID-19.
Cordell Littlejohn WR Out For Season – Personal Sat, Sep 5 Littlejohn has opted-out of the 2020 season due to a personal decision.
Quran Hafiz S Out For Season – Personal Tue, Aug 25 Hafiz has decided to opt-out for the entire 2020 season due to a personal reason.
Injury data lifted from: boydsbets.com
Charlotte Injury Report
Data Scraped: 2020-09-30 15:00:03
Player Position Status Reported Notes
Markees Watts DE Ques Sat – Lower Body Tue, Sep 29 Watts has a lower-body injury, and it is unclear if he will play Saturday versus Florida Atlantic.
Chris Reynolds QB Prob Sat – Upper Body Tue, Sep 29 Reynolds is likely to make his season debut Saturday versus FAU after healing from an upper-body injury.
Injury data lifted from: boydsbets.com
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