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INTJ, Love and Dating August 2, 2018 August 2, 2018. 7 Secrets About Being in a Relationship With an INTJ Personality. by Andre Sólo. If you’re an INTJ personality like me, you may have always struggled to find a partner who understands you. Many INTJs eschew short-term flings and hit the brakes at the first sign of infatuation — because ... INTJ Flirting & Dating: How to Attract an INTJ For the INTJ flirting and dating is often much different than it is for the more emotionally expressive types. This doesn’t mean they are naturally disinterested in dating, it just means the process and their personal desires are often a bit different. There are some stereotypes […] INTJ relationships and dating. Top 10 Qualities INTJ Men Look For In Women. By Mindaugas Jaceris on August 22, 2016. It is important to note that the list below is based on opinion, and may vary from one INTJ to another. In addition, the list is intended for male… INTJ relationships can be complicated. Here is a look at how each Myers Briggs type gets along romantically with the INTJ personality type. i’m intj female dating an older intp male and it is GREAT. i think i dated a same age istp before (it was very short and i never got him to do a typology test, istp is my best guess) and that was great too – he left me and broke my heart but i have no regrets, i have fond memories of him and i am very happy with my current guy who is for sure an intp guy. my current intp guy is an even ... Relationships with an INTJ. It can be difficult dating an INTJ. Despite being extremely straightforward and direct, they can be incredibly difficult to reach on an emotional level. To an INTJ, talking about their deepest emotions almost feels distasteful and impolite. They prefer solving practical problems. Emotions are just too unpredictable. Tips for Dating an INTJ Personality . INTJs have very little patience for games, especially where relationships are concerned. As with most other situations, this individual views a romantic relationship as a world of possibility that can be changed and improved upon to create the most ideal version. Dating as a female INTJ is insanely difficult. We’re often misunderstood and for that reason, it’s important to remember these INTJ female dating tips so you can really get the most out of a date. P.S. I’ve read a lot of books and taken a lot of courses, but the one thing that has helped me the most is the INTJ Starter Kit by Personality ... I’m an INTJ dating another INTJ. I consider the both of us as being pretty well-developed. This is how our relationship basically goes: 1. We both had such a slow start as we studied and subconsciously put each other to test. Once we established t... For an INTJ like me, dating is challenging. Socializing and dating are tiring for everyone, but for us, they are twice as tiring. We are introverts and we can be arrogant at times. Plus, we always look for long-term partners, not just occasional flings.

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2020.09.30 23:27 tea_sipper_ace Dealing with constant criticism as a female INTJ during the dating phase. Any advice?

I'd like to know if any other female INTJ's have been through a similar experience in dealing with criticism for being the way you are and how you have dealt with it in your adult life. How have you dealt with finding a partner especially when you are slow to open up, and what have you done to improve your self-confidence in the dating world?
I personally am guilty of lowering my standards as I don't believe I can ever find anyone who is a good fit for me. Any tips for dealing with that as well would be really helpful.
Thanks anyway :)
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2020.09.30 21:47 Romeromeee Dating an INTJ male for almost 5 months and still don’t know if we are already boyfriend/girlfriend. I’m an INFJ female.

Hi INTJs, I am dating this INTJ man who’s 18 years older than me. It’s almost 5 months since we started seeing each other. Right from the get go, when he asked me out for dinner, I told him that I am only interested in a serious relationship and if what he’s after is not serious then I’d rather not start anything with him (this is prior to knowing he’s an INTJ).
Long story short, this October will be our 5 months dating and to be honest I have seen so much changes in him since the day we started dating. He nows initiate physical contact (very much) actually. He calls me out when I have done something wrong (for him it’s wrong). He literally would be very snuggly and cuddly. When I have a hard time sleeping, I would wake him up and he’d literally hug me brush my hair and stay close until I fall asleep. I find him opening more and including me more in his day. He’s very busy as he is a businessman so I understand that we don’t see each other that much, usually just once a week. He’s told me several times how much he likes me. That I’m smart, cool (kinda cool as he joked) and funny.
Sorry that’s such a long intro.
So, my concern is. Because he’s a personality in the business world, I somehow understand why our relationship still remained to be just between the two of us. I haven’t met his friend and parents and he hasn’t met my family yet too. Of course the reason why I have not introduce him to my family yet is because I have a huge family and I don’t want him to be overwhelmed by the so many people or questions.
How do I know where I stand in this relationship? Like what am I in his life? Do I just wait and just let things be? Sometimes I worry that he might still be seeing someone else. I actually get jealous (feeling a little tug on my chest) when he shares more with his female friends and not with me. But then I get it, he’s in business. He’s in his 40s. Obviously he would have more people he knows and people in business that he’d have more conversations with.
I honestly just need to hear your thoughts. This is my first time being in a relationship with an older man, plus an INTJ. Thank u very much!!
INFJ female, 27.
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2020.09.30 08:48 Destiny_is_Destiny 28 [M4F] Fort Collins/Northern CO/Online- Looking for a player 2 to share this life and any extra ones with.

Howdy! Thanks for taking the time to read this. It means a lot, as time is the most important resource we have.
Honestly, I took myself out of the dating pool for awhile. Had a bad end to a relationship and needed to make sure i was whole and ready to give you the attention and time you deserve.
So who am I? I think I'm pretty typical. I have a job, participate in higher education. I Love animals, and am pretty sociable when I need to be. I love cooking and grilling. I also read (books, manga, whatever catches my fancy), play games, give messages and am pretty handy when it comes to electronics. INTJ-T here if it matters.
I watch scifi, action, comedies, romcoms, sitcoms, and anime of all genres really. I play League of Legends (Chill ADC main here), Fall guys, Darksoulborneekiroring, fighting games, Diablo and plenty of mobile games.
I'm child free, drug and disease free. I don't smoke or drink. Classically liberal. A fan of history and being informed as best as we can nowadays.
I'm generally free of mental illness and have 1 cute pupper. My dream life includes lots of animals.
So what am I looking for? You! Preferably your interested in a monogamous relationship eventually ( eventually on the relationship part.) You have some common interests with me, and are open to playing some games together. Enjoy animals. Are or willing to work towards being HWP.
Honestly physical attraction matters. Here is what I look like Here is what I sound like
I have my own fitness goals I'm working towards. I don't plan on being this way forever.
I think that bout sums everything up nicely.
If you would send me a private message I would appreciate it.
Thank you for taking the time to read this I look forward to meeting you soon.
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2020.09.30 03:32 naturewalkss 34 [M4F] Dallas/US Looking to develop a long term, supportive, close friendship with possible romance.

Local Dating: It can take quite a bit of time and effort to form a substantial romantic connection in the local dating scene nowadays. Having to wade through dating apps, social functions, etc. all during a pandemic. Add in dealing with general dating obstacles and dating fatigue.
What I'm looking for: I'm mainly looking to develop an online long-term, supportive, close friendship where we can also feel free to be romantic and flirt until we find someone to be serious with locally. I'm thinking we can be kind of like a wingwoman/wingman for each other but with the freedom to also flirt and be romantic with each other.
I'm looking for something in the sweet spot between a casual and serious romantic connection since there is a low chance we will be local. I'm open to developing something more if there is strong enough chemistry and desire to pursue something long distance together or if we happen to live locally.
Looking for someone to share weekly intimate evening voice calls with and possibly some intimate texting here and there throughout the week as well. This is after we talk a bit and see if we have some friendship/romantic chemistry. I imagine the intimate time to be a way for both of us to look forward to something, unwind from the day together, relax, and enjoy each other's company. This can be with talking, comfortable silence, doing an activity together or separately.
Me: 6'2, asian/white mix, good looking, physically active and fit, enjoy eating a healthy diet and employing good habits. My mbti is a mix of INTJ/INFJ. I'm a mix of an old soul combined with being young at heart. Basically a combo of mature and silly. I'm very introverted and tend to be reserved with someone new until I feel more comfortable with them (especially in person). I have a college education and enjoy learning for the actual knowledge and skill of something; not to feed the ego.
Some of my traits: analytical, organized, creative, perceptive, emotionally intuitive, supportive, nonjudgmental, thoughtful listener.
Interests: Nature/Animals, Artistic/Aesthetically pleasing views, Beautiful landscapes/locations, Puzzley/Strategic Games, Mystery, Documentaries, Social Sciences: Psychology, Philosophy, History, Art History, Film History, Anthropology, Sociology, etc. Chilling and relaxing. Low-key activities.
We can also trade pictures and/or video cam if wanted after messaging a bit. There's a lot more I can share about myself but I'll save the rest for when we begin talking :)
Some requirements I'm looking for:
Introverted. Physically slim, slender, average, or fit. Conventionally good looking. Someone who has similar characteristics/traits/interests/outlook.
Extra Bonus Points: If you live in the Dallas area. Are a INTJ/INTP. Have any similar interests.
F.A.Q.: Why am I posting on Reddit? Because I'm an introvert and it's rare to meet other introverts on dating apps and social places. Reddit attracts a lot more introverted people.
Disclaimer: I will only select the best written responses to reply to as I don't have the time and energy to develop a connection with everyone that replies. I'm not expecting that many replies as this is a pretty specific and selective kind of post but I want to give a heads up that the more effort you put into your message, the higher chance I will reply as I'm looking to invest time into a high quality connection and nothing less.
I put a lot of time, thought, and effort into the posts I create on Reddit to try to attract the right kind of connection. Looking for someone that enjoys matching that kind of energy.
Finish Line: If you were able to read through all that, fit the requirements, and think we'd have a connection, send me a message that includes your asl, some information about you, what you connected on, and why you think we'd connect! Feel free to ask any questions as well!
Look forward to hearing from you! :)
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2020.09.29 07:40 ZigJig61 My girlfriend and I have different views in kissing...

My girlfriend and I are both Christians, I'm an INTJ and she an INTP. We are both 19 and have been dating for two years.
We've taken it very slowly. I dont think we really even hugged each other until around a year or so. We stuck to side hugs and hand holding, we just didnt want things to get too crazy too fast, ya know? We both believe in abstaining until marriage, as per the norm in a Christian relationship.
So then the topic of kissing comes up. Personally, given our pace thus far, I don't see jt happening for a little while longer, but the topic came up. I ask her what she thinks about it, around when she'd be ok with it.
She says the first kiss is the one that happens on the wedding day. I was kinda taken by surprise. I know her sister and her boyfriend kiss all the time, they do it in front of people, so I know it wasnt how she was raised. We've talked a little bit about this, and she's not budging, at all. I'm willing to compromise, and I don't want to push into anything she's not comfortable with, it's just I'm not ok with our first kiss being during a ceremony.
It took me uncharacteristically long to process through all this, but I think I have it. For me, waiting until marriage to kiss over-sexualizes kissing and therefore over-sexualizes marriage. Don't get me wrong, I'm aware there is a blatantly sexual aspect to marriage, but its not everything. Waiting to kiss makes kissing sexual, which makes marriage feel more and more about sexual freedom, a perversion of it's true purpose.
I don't know what to do. I can't convince her because then any kissing won't feel right, it'll feel contrived. But at the same time, this js something serious too me. Should I seriously consider breaking up? I love this girl, but this feels serious. Am I being weird?
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2020.09.28 22:26 TheRRwright I crave power over others. I want my will to dominate their reality.

Despite all my searches online, I can never real find this topic discussed deeply and the psychology of it. I can’t seem to find the writings of people who experience it. So I want to talk about it here and see if anyone understands.
I want power over other people. With my GF, I like ordering for her at restaurants and paying. I like being able to issue commands “why don’t you. . .” And having them followed. I like asking her to cook for me and her putting in work to satisfy me with delicious food. Her doing stuff I like to please me. I like when she works to please me and has good behavior. I like massages, face masks, and pampering in general. It makes me feel powerful, strong, masculine, and just good. (I’m also a supremely good bf for context so I don’t think I’m like a bad guy: I work hard to make her feel good when she does behavior I like and I take her on extraordinary dates—it’s a very happy relationship)
It goes deeper, I like to decide. I like walking a dog (something I never got to do as a kid, no pets) and commanding it with the leash. It doesn’t stop, it walks where I go. Im in control. I like seeing it wait on me loyally, always there. I like to see it heed my commands. It’s satisfying, I love the order and power and beauty of the arrangement.
I want to have power over reality. I like to be in positions of authority. I like my decisions be respected and followed. I love command and competition.
I dream of a house when I’m older where it’s a special occasion when “fathers home”. Perhaps my wealthy freinds house made me appreciate this. It was a big deal when father was home for the weekend: special meals prepared, the kids excited and well behaved, the wife happy and working hard so he can enjoy it. The german Shepard guard dogs were in the house and happy. I was amazed at the power that man possessed over his reality and how well he lead and commanded his family unit. It was a happy, respected, and functional family which produced brilliant happy kids.
I want to be respected, loved, treated and pampered by my wife when I’m in the house. Don’t get me wrong, it’s me who will build the fires, do the outside work, take out the trash ect. But I love the idea of being a respected, powerful man whom the people around me work to treat. I crave power: not to abuse but to enjoy and to make the world better. I want to annihilate the competition and make my way to the top .5% and higher. I want to be in extreme competition and fight to the highest of my abilities in my career. I want to command and dictate strategy, and I want to be treated when I’m home. As long as I am a strong, intelligent, empathetic strategists, I want to be obeyed and respected and exalted.
Does anyone else understand what I’m talking about? Does anyone know where I can read more about this? Where does this come from? Is there an optimal way to harness this drive? So far I’m doing well in life, but I want more. I want a beautiful perfectly crafted estate with a beautiful ENFP wife (hopefully my gf will be that woman :)) to make it a home and care for home when I’m there. Even having a maid or two would be highly enjoyable as well.
Background (optional): I was a youngest sibling with high achieving sisters and did always feel like family thought I wasn’t as good as them (or maybe it was in my head?). I was a nerdy weird kid with no athletic ability in my childhood. I hated it. In HS I broke out and found a sport I was good at and excelled to an extreme degree and made my first female freinds. But still social skills were always a problem until I learned I was INTJ and figured out how to learn them. Now they’re excellent. My dad was kinda a narcissist and I always felt weak as a kid. I always wanted to be popular but never was welcomed. Everything was a fight. Now the universe around me is turning in my favor and I’m on an explosion of growth and success and I’m determined.
This craving for power is there and burns hot. I hate seeing emotional socially talented people in power. I want to obliterate them in competition and take their wealth and power. I want to send them down 10% in wealth. I want to dominate and destroy them. And I want my world to be amazing and beautiful. I want a wife with family values that fosters closeness and builds a tight knit community. I want to command, fight, and compete and give the good people a good world and obliterate evil and negligence through strategic superiority.
I crave power and control, but why? Is it good or bad? How can I play this desire optimally? Does anyone else understand what I’m saying?
Edit 1: it’s worth saying that I fucking love bdsm and has since I was 6-7. It was After some beautiful older girls who were family freinds tied me up: I realized I liked girls pretty early I guess
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2020.09.28 21:47 NYCThrowawayNSFW Question for ENFP females

INTJ male here. I’m dating an ENFP and it’s been a couple of weeks.
An issue we’ve discussed is that she has these “walls” up from her previous relationship. She said she likes me, but it takes her a while to warm up to someone because she’s always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I said that rationally I agree with her, but that it hurts on an emotional level (these boundaries come off as emotional unavailability).
Are ENFP always this distant in the beginning of a relationship? Because I’m seriously questioning if it’s worth pursuing this for weeks/months before she’s willing to open up emotionally.
EDIT: Thanks for all the advice everyone! There seems to be reasonable arguments on both sides. However, for this situation, I’m going to be a little more patient (she seems to be relaxing more, albeit slowly). If my patience is pulled to the brink, I will exit, but I’m not there just yet.
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2020.09.28 18:24 Macallan-18 Update 2: Made a Move on a Friend

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TL;DR: Did not work out, still friends and very close. She was emotional and wanted to preserve the friendship. I am glad we tried and saw it did not work out so we can both remain friends without the question of what if hanging over our heads.

UPDATE:
We tried to be a couple for a week but ultimately it did not work out. She was concerned with keeping the friendship intact and said the whole "couple thing" created a a great deal of stress and pressure for her.
She said she thought she was overthinking and tried to keep an open mind but said it was causing a great deal of stress. She has a lot going on - her dog recently passed away, she has stress with work, and her neighbors are causing trouble. It is a lot going on in her mind which I get. I also get the sense that there is a great deal of paranoia on her part but knowing her history it is expected.
When she thought I would be mad at her and not want to be her friend she started to cry a bunch. I told her I def wanted to be her friend and she was ok. I did not feel any chemistry at least sexual but I do care for her on an emotional level. She does not mention any other friends so I am pretty positive I am her social life so I understand her not wanting to risk losing the friendship.
Sometimes the cuddling and hand holding felt right and she seemed she was into it. Others times it was awkward. I learned she is hot and cold with wanting to be held and cuddled with depending on her mood. I tried to read the situation and keep space when needed. She said it felt weird and in some ways incestuous (which is the true sign to me she does not want to date) which led to pressure to preserve the friendship. She also said she thought a lot about how to look for me and what to wear which added to it. We did establish
She does have a lot of issues and not ready to date anyone (my opinion and her word.) When her dog died she wanted space and I dropped off food and other goodies at her doorstep. I also helped with her garden and chores. After we had the chat as to why it is not going to work we set boundaries. Like we alternate paying for things, stick to hugs (no massages or any kind of cuddling), no boyfriend or Honey Do lists, etc. The week we were a couple was very tiring and emotionally taxing for me.
Our mutual friends told me I should avoid dating her as they see she is not ready to commit and has issues she needs to work out. I am cool with being friends with her as we do have a good time together and enjoy being around her. I do not want to date her but then again, if she got a boyfriend tomorrow I think I would feel a little hurt but I think it is because it is too close to all of this time wise.
We did hang out twice since our talk about not pursuing it this past Thursday. Friday we we went out to dinner and went for a walk. Yesterday we went for a walk with her dog and went to a farmers market. She wanted to check out together for ease of pay. So I went out and got her bottles of wine equal to my share.
Ultimately we cannot choose who we like and I understand that. We do have a very close and strong connection. She has have abandonment issues and whenever she thinks I hate her or that I will not be her friend she gets very very emotional. She is not the best at expressing how she feels so it was moving to see how much she cared about me.
Will we eventually get together down the road? It is doubtful but time will tell. For me it will be if she is able to cope with some of her underlying issues.
Thanks for reading and wish us luck!
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2020.09.28 15:53 randomuserryay INFP + INTJ compatibility?

I like this guy who is an INTJ and I just found out he likes me back (very surprised by this for the record). What is the compatibility of INFPs and INTJs? Does anyone have experience dating an INTJ?
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2020.09.28 08:12 reddituser2885 34 [M4F] #LosAngeles - What did one boat say to the other? Are you up for a little row-man

Hi!
Nerdy guy here but I feel I have good conversation skills. I'm Asian but American born and raised. Very open to dating other races. I'm a huge hopeless romantic. Ideally looking for something serious with kids down the line but am open to anything. Thin-ish (150 pounds) but looking to be more physically active. I like to read scifi and fantasy, travel (I loved Italy), explore, history, hiking and long walks, having long discussions. I'm into movies like Star Wars and TV shows like Game of Thrones, Westworld, and Stranger Things. Play boardgames like Mansions of Madness and Eldritch Horror. INTJ. Sagittarius. Have car and can drive. Many people have said I look younger than my age. Very strongly prefer a pic (I'm a visual person and I like to know who I am talking to) if you decide to send me a message (PMs please no chat). Strongly against ghosting and catfishing. Bitcoin scammers you have no power here.
Here are some pics.
https://imgur.com/a/GyPyRLC
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2020.09.28 07:36 kikilede68 An ISFJ needs your INTJ insight on this situation

Hi all,
I am an ISFJ girl. I've been talking to an INTJ guy. We had a date set up over a weekend, but he ended up bailing at the last minute. We never established a concrete meeting time, so I guess that should've been my hint that he wasn't likely interested in going on this date.
He apologized and said that he has been really stressed lately and that he needed to catch up on his things. He did not offer to reschedule. I later found out that he had been out with his friends who were visiting from out of town over the weekend in question. It wasn't clear if he meant that he bailed on me to hang out with his friends, or if he was with them all weekend, and actually needed alone time.
Long story short, I ended up telling him through text that I believe him and I should just be friends shortly after. He told me that he thought it was a lot to digest and that I should say this in person. So I agreed. We set up a time. Lo behold, he ends up bailing AGAIN. He had told me that he and his friends were going to dinner prior, so I'm assuming they all went out afterwards.
When the talk happened, he acted just as he did the last few times that I saw him. He explained that he had a lot on his plate and he didn't really want to deal with the talk. He said that he was also sad for personal reasons that I won't mention here. It just seemed kind of like he was telling me these things because I wanted to break it off with him? Or, maybe he was lying. I couldn't tell... He also said that he wasn't really looking for "friends" right now either because he's starting school soon, blah blah. He has told me this before (refer to c)
After the talk, as we were walking somewhere, he put his arms around my shoulders. He also invited me to go where he was headed after our talk, but I couldn't go. It's been a little over 2 weeks since we've spoken.
Other details:
a) He has told me that he likes me
b) Prior to the date, we had been distant towards one another because something happened between us, but we still kept in minimal contact via text
c) We both established that we weren't looking for anything serious and that we'd be casual because we both just out of long term relationships. We also have a lot of work and school commitments coming up in the next few months.
My questions are:
  1. Is this just another case of "he's just not that into you" or a legitimate reason an INTJ would bail on a date?
  2. Is he not initiating contact because I told him that I wanted to be friends or because he's been stressed, and sad, or am I just dead to him? o.o
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2020.09.28 06:46 MajesticKittyPaws Does anyone else feel like they don’t have patience for relationships?

I’m a female INTJ, and I’ve never been too great at relationships. Relationships are hard for me even when it’s long distance or I have my own space.
I think I just don’t have enough patience to deal with anyone. As someone who is obsessed with personal goals, success and self improvement, I honestly HATE having to spend precious hours of my life dealing with relationship conflict. Sure relationships would be GREAT if it was just about the perks, but unfortunately real relationships also involve not so fun times such as fights or just the other person killing your buzz with their own problems.
I know that bad times are kind of an essential part of a relationship, but I can’t help but think how much of a waste of time they are. I cringe at the thought of having to be patient for the rest of my life and compromising with what someone else may want.
The thing is, I’m sure occasional headaches and compromises might be worth it if I were to find someone good enough - but I’m pretty sure I won’t ever find someone who is highly intelligent, very confident, loyal, honest, ambitious, driven, attractive, well cultured, etc. I know they exist, but they are an endangered species and I’m sure that even if I found them, they probably wouldn’t date ME lol.
The consequence is that I always stay single for a few years, until eventually I start missing the perks of relationships - dates, sex, etc. So then I end up dating the person in my small pool of possibilities who most closely meets my standards.
But they are never the “ideal”. And hence after the fun of the first few months wears off, my patience is constantly tested and it becomes a headache for me. The problem is that by then there’s feelings involved and I don’t want to be a complete bitch, specifically not if I think they are good people and they score very high on certain aspects of my list of ideal partner traits (but not on the rest).
I feel like my options are either to take anxiety pills to deal with having a partner (who isn’t ideal and gives me headaches almost every day but whom I love) for the rest of my life, oooor accepting that I am going to be eaten by my cats one day.
Can anyone else kind of relate?
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2020.09.27 14:54 Bigfoot_Needs_Wifi 36 [M4F] Nashville, TN - Nerdy guy looking for someone to share a childfree life with.

I live close to Nashville and I’m looking for someone who also wants to live a childfree life. The childfree scene here in Nashville on the online dating apps is pretty nonexistent. I know I don’t ever want to have children and trying to find someone else near me in the South who also wants the same is like looking for a needle in a haystack in a very small pool. Add to that that I’m an atheist who doesn’t like sweet tea, and that small dating pool shrinks to the depths of a parking lot puddle.
Here’s a bit about me.
I’m 36 years old, 6ft, with brown hair, a short beard and blue eyes. I’m 265lbs with a chubby build but I’m working on getting back in shape.
I live 20-25 minutes north of Nashville. I was a military brat, and I’ve lived all other the world, I’d love to travel the world and/or live overseas again.
I love traveling, exploring around town, visiting new thrift stores, farmers markets and flea markets. I’m a big foodie and I’m always looking to try new restaurants and cuisines. With COVID changing things, I’m mainly just getting take out and trying help the restaurants get through this period. My current favorite cuisines are Indian and Thai.
Some of my hobbies are reading, cooking, bingeing on podcasts and Netflix/Hulu/etc, woodworking and building things. I’m a big nerd and I love all things Marvel and 3D printing, and pre-COVID I liked going to Comic-cons and other conventions.
I’m a huge reader and my favorite genres are mystery, Sci-fi, Fantasy and paranormal. I’m always looking for new books to read.
I’m an atheist, and I’m open to people who are spiritual or religious, but I’m not looking for someone who makes their beliefs the main purpose in their life or someone who doesn’t believe in science.
I’m a liberal Democrat, a Hufflepuff. If you’re interested in personality assessments, I’m a INTJ on the Myers Briggs and a 5 on the enneagram personality test
I have two bachelors degrees and I feel that education is something that never ends and I’m always trying to learn new things and as Neil DeGrasse Tyson put it “know more about the world than I knew yesterday.”
I’ve never done any drugs. I’ve never smoked weed, but someday I’d like to try it. I’m fine with those who use it and I think it should be legal for everyone nationwide. I’m not a big drinker, I’ll drink socially but it’s not something I do often.
I’m looking for someone to go through life with and explore the world with. Someone who wants to have fun and who likes to joke around and doesn’t take themselves too seriously. If you’re funny, kind of nerdy and got a bubbly personality and you don’t ever want to have children, drop me a message.
if you’re near me and interested in talking more let me know.
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2020.09.27 14:37 tmkly INTJs and the "romantic spark"

Hello fellow INTJs! Long time lurker here, first post. Fairly sure this has been asked before here but I need a place to vent and process my thoughts.
So I went on a second date with a great girl yesterday, we had a good time (both fairly busy schedules so just got coffee). Talked about family, hobbies and work for a bit then I asked her a couple of deeper questions (classic INTJ, love to understand someone) - mainly "what would you change about yourself if you had the chance?" and "if you could go back to 3 times in your life and do things differently, what would you choose?". She had good answers and asked me back, we got talking about stuff we both mentioned and seemed like it was going well. We left on good terms, although didn't formally organise a 3rd date (I did say I've enjoyed it and would be great to see you again, to which she seemed receptive, if not 100% enthusiasic. Which I can now see is a bad sign).
I texted her a few hours later to re-iterate that. She replied and said that although she had a good time, she doesn't feel a "romantic spark". Fair enough, but the issue is, I have no idea what that really means.
For a bit of background, I'm a software engineer, 26 years old (male, if that wasn't obvious), British. I'm not a hugely confident guy but I'm good at conversations once I get going (like most INTJs, I abhor small talk and pointless surface-level discussions), I have some good interests (running, football, building keyboards - mechanicalkeyboards is like a second home to me). I think I'm decently good looking but not exactly amazing.
I've been on maybe 4 or 5 dates in the last year to 18 months, and each have ended the same way. At first, I thought "eh it'll come", but now I'm starting to think it's me who needs to learn how to do this. We have great texting conversations (through online dating websites/apps - but not Tinder), and then when I meet them while I feel it's gone well, they don't feel the "spark", or the "connection" or the "butterflies".
So my question is (sorry for the preamble) - how can I learn how to get someone to experience a "romantic spark" on a first or second date? I'm not good at flirting (honestly, I just feel it's so wierd and cringey) but maybe I need to change my perspective and learn it (if that's possible). I need some practical ways, or at the very least, videos and books to watch and read to learn this. Because I'm finally willing to accept (after years of denial that this is my problem) that I need to fix it.
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2020.09.27 11:27 yayafifi Secret bodyguard

So, I'm writing a fanfiction and maybe, one of my oc will be intp. I'm INTP too btw
What do you think how INTP will act as a secret bodyguard? Or secret agent because I can't really imagine Intp being an agent.
And for those who's dating or dated an INTJ, how would you describe your interaction with them and what made you attracted to them? Since I want to pair my oc with a canon character, I want to make sure they have some sort of chemistry
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2020.09.27 08:03 ReditGuyToo Locations to find female ENFPs

Ok, folks. Time to spill the beans!
What do you guys recommend are the best places to find female ENFPs for dating?
What is the best way to get their attention?
Note that I am INTJ, so I'm limited in places. For examples, going to endless parties may not be doable. In the past, I've tried looking for them by attending ballroom dancing classes.
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2020.09.27 06:02 yayafifi Love interest

Hi, I'm an INTP. I want to ask, which MBTI type do you prefer when it comes to love interest?
I'm writing a fanfiction so I want to match a canon character that is an INTJ with an oc which I haven't design yet. Can you suggest MBTI type that you would like to date?
I would love if you gave the MBTI even if you think everyone will do if you can tolerate each other since I'm asking this for inspiration for my character.
Thank you in advance.
And I would really appreciate it if you can explain why you like them.
Edit: Other than ENFP since I've made an ENFP oc and I don't want them to be similar
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2020.09.27 05:30 Haeojah Loss of Friendship

Okay guys, long story short, this started about 2 months ago in July.
For context, I had made an (apparently stupid) promise to my (ex) best friend (INTJ) to not have a boyfriend until I was ready. It went both ways. Now I understand that I'm at fault here for not clarifying our understandings of this because I (INFP) thought that going on a date to imagine and assess someone in a romantic perspective was not included. Just a date, not a commitment to relationship.
So in July, I'm talking to this boy that I think is "hey he's cute and he respects [these things about me.]" Then he pulls out a rather manipulative move that I didn't see until after the fact (another story). To put simply, I asked him out so I could assess what I know, learn more, and explain that based on his manipulative card he pulled that I didn't have a right to have unrealistic standards and expectations when I wasn't actively looking for a relationship. I told him it was only a date. Nothing more.
Well I thought I made it clear to my friend that this was just a date and nothing more, but on the day of the date and that the presents I sent her had arrived (she'd just lost a loved animal in her life), she felt the need to actually ask if it was a date. Trying to be as honest and open in my relationships as I can, I told her it was.
She kind of- Blew up at me, and I tried to be calm and explain but I guess she didn't get it? Or if she did, she was just too mad to say so. Either way, she stopped texting me for 3 days, until another friend (ISFP) helped me settle down enough with my anxiety to write out a text and reach out to her.
Well I send the text and go to social media to try and find all some good memes... She's blocked me on all of her accounts. "Petty," I think, "but if she needs me to leave her alone, she could've just asked and I'll respect that until she's ready to talk."
Well the following morning she sends a long text, and literally nothing else.
3 weeks go by. Nothing from her. She hasn't unblocked me, I've been talking to my ISFP, another mutual friend of ours... Zip.
I'm about to get my wisdom teeth removed in two days, so I simply reach out and say "hey, you don't have to, cuz this is mostly for me, but if you're willing, could you pray for my surgery to go well?"
She responded, essentially, with "one'd think lack of contact would mean loss of familiarity..." And so on. It hurt, but she's finally talking to me again, even if but for a moment. So I try again with explaining myself about the surgery, and then the promise and date thing, and I asked what her verdict is. INTJ says it'll be at least a month before she tries to have any contact with me, let alone a relationship again.
Fine, whatever, I'll respect that and wait as long as it takes.
2 weeks after the surgery, she's unblocked me, I notice, I don't say anything. I'll wait til she talks to me.
I go to work for that day, and 4 hours into the shift I finally get to check my phone and she says, basically, we're not friends anymore.
I'm new to being an adult (turned 18 in June), and I was desperately trying to keep it together. Thank God for my ISFP friend who stepped up and let me ugly cry on her shoulder for the rest of my break, and has since really become practically a sister to me.
So I send a response to INTJ saying that I respect her decision and if she needs or wants to contact me, use my number as that is the fastest means.
That was all in August now. It has been over a month since she called it quits and I'm still hurting all over just looking at some of the art I made for and of her. We have mutual friends, so sometimes we end up commenting on the same post or something but I just
I guess I'll cut to the chase and ask if any of you have dealt with this and how?
Because I've been in a really dark place since all of this and while I do have a support system here in town, I just feel empty thinking about 4 years of my personality being shaped around someone just for it to end like none of it ever mattered at all. I've been pessimistic and judgemental of everyone and I can barely look in the mirror without calling myself a selfish b*tch and a terrible friend and I know it'll destroy my other relationships...
So how do I deal with this in a healthy manner? Is it normal to hope that I can fix things with INTJ someday, or should I call it quits for anything with her? What can I do?
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2020.09.27 00:45 reddituser2885 34 [M4F] #LosAngeles - What did one boat say to the other? Are you up for a little row-mance?

Hi!
Nerdy guy here but I feel I have good conversation skills. I'm Asian but American born and raised. Very open to dating other races. I'm a huge hopeless romantic. Ideally looking for something serious with kids down the line but am open to anything. Thin-ish (150 pounds) but looking to be more physically active. I like to read scifi and fantasy, travel (I loved Italy), explore, history, hiking and long walks, having long discussions. I'm into movies like Star Wars and TV shows like Game of Thrones, Westworld, and Stranger Things. Play boardgames like Mansions of Madness and Eldritch Horror. INTJ. Sagittarius. Have car and can drive. Many people have said I look younger than my age. Very strongly prefer a pic (I'm a visual person and I like to know who I am talking to) if you decide to send me a message (PMs please no chat). Strongly against ghosting and catfishing. Bitcoin scammers you have no power here.
Here are some pics.
https://imgur.com/a/GyPyRLC
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2020.09.26 22:24 Romeromeee My INTJ guy has started calling me “nerd”

Lately, I noticed that my INTJ guy has started calling me nerd...he says that in text and after a call. I don’t know what it means. It’s hard to read him to be honest. As an INFJ, I am pretty good with reading people. One exception, this INTJ guy I’m dating. Excited to hear what you INTJs think about it.
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2020.09.26 19:12 reddituser2885 34 [M4F] #LosAngeles - What did one boat say to the other? Are you up for a little row-mance?

Hi!
Nerdy guy here but I feel I have good conversation skills. I'm Asian but American born and raised. Very open to dating other races. I'm a huge hopeless romantic. Ideally looking for something serious with kids down the line but am open to anything. Thin-ish (150 pounds) but looking to be more physically active. I like to read scifi and fantasy, travel (I loved Italy), explore, history, hiking and long walks, having long discussions. I'm into movies like Star Wars and TV shows like Game of Thrones, Westworld, and Stranger Things. Play boardgames like Mansions of Madness and Eldritch Horror. INTJ. Sagittarius. Have car and can drive. Many people have said I look younger than my age. Very strongly prefer a pic (I'm a visual person and I like to know who I am talking to) if you decide to send me a message (PMs please no chat). Strongly against ghosting and catfishing. Bitcoin scammers you have no power here.
Here are some pics.
https://imgur.com/a/GyPyRLC
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2020.09.25 20:20 iridescentcodex Dream about competing with another woman for an ex-boyfriend

Age:23 Sex: Female Personality type: INTJ
(Warning for rape/sexual assault)
I’ve been having many strange dreams lately but this one from last night was particularly shocking to me. Me, my ex-boyfriend, and another woman were in a large house together, a house that I wasn’t particularly familiar with, but almost all of it was a mahogany type wood, the walls, floors, etc.
Me and this other woman, who was named Sarah, were competing to be chosen by my ex-boyfriend, presumably as someone to date or marry. He was taking his time deciding, beating around the bush, and part of his decision making process was to have sex with both of us. I didn’t want to have sex with him and he knew that, but it happened anyway. I wasn’t fighting him for it, it was more like a close your eyes and get through it type of thing.
Sarah and I continued to wait for him to decide, and talking to Sarah I found her to be a nice girl. Eventually, my ex chose her, and they broke the news to me together in one of the wood wall, wood floor rooms. I remember I was on the ground when they told me, and they were standing up.
I stood up and asked why he chose Sarah, but I’m not sure he gave me a straight answer, but Sarah said something like: “the funny thing is, I don’t even love him.” I was so confused and angry, because in the dream I DID love him, so it didn’t make sense to me why he would choose her and why she would want to be with him anyway.
Afterwards I was in a small closet (all wood again) with the door open, sitting on the ground crying. Somebody came by, a smaller man who resembled a character from a show I like, and at that point I knew for some reason that the whole situation was his fault, so I was crying and blaming him for it.
I’m not sure how to interpret this. This ex-boyfriend and I haven’t seen each other in over three years, and haven’t spoken in nearly two years. I have no desire to reconnect with him at all. I think about him pretty frequently, but I’ve attributed that to me being lonely and not having been in a relationship since breaking up with him, and because I want to find a relationship, but I feel like I won’t be accepted by another person because of my low self esteem and body image. I’m curious to know what someone else thinks.
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